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post #16 of 83 (permalink) Old 04-15-2017, 09:06 PM
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Re: The baby is mine and he does not know

Does the father of her other baby pay child support?

Once this baby is born, if it is yours, she can go after you for child support. If that happens, make sure you demand a DNA test before giving her a penny of child support. And make sure that you get 50% custody.


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has she told you in typical wayward style how bad her boyfriend is and you overwhelmingly believes her for your own sake. I think at least you should tell the oppressed Bf the situation and set him free
If I do then I for sure lose her but I gain the kid, Trying to save both.

Does she say that this is your baby?

If she loves you, why won't she leave her boyfriend? Does he make a lot more money than you do?

She says it is mine and we talk about her like she is ours. She is too scared that the lies will cause her to lose her support system (family/friends). I make more than him, actually.
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How old are you and her?

Does she have a job?

She is living with a boyfriend, not a husband, right? If she is not happy with him, why doesn't she just leave him? Surely her support system would not want her to stay with a guy that she is not happy with.
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She is not married, right?
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Why does her family need to know it's your baby, right now?
The thing about family and fear, you don't know for sure what someone else is going to do, and you can't control it either. So you focus on what's more important especially when kids are involved. I'm sure her family wants to see her secure, happy.


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You both deserve each other. She's a cheating ***** and you became a homewrecker the moment you knew she was living with someone. You should have ended it then.

Why the hell weren't the two of you using birth control??? Especially after you knew she was living with someone else?

What appalling role models the poor children in this disgusting situation have.
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You both deserve each other. She's a cheating ***** and you became a homewrecker the moment you knew she was living with someone. You should have ended it then.

Why the hell weren't the two of you using birth control??? Especially after you knew she was living with someone else?

What appalling role models the poor children in this disgusting situation have.
I couldn't agree more with this. I've been cheated on and I tell you what, if it weren't for my daughter, I would of tracked the POS down and beat some sense into him.

This is not some fairytale love story. This is extremely distasteful, and yes you are a homewrecker. You may have genitalia that says you're male, but that's as far as that goes.
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You picked a real winner there my friend. I feel back for the baby and the boyfriend.

How could you possibly have a good stable family life with someone who has such low character. This is not a stable women to build a family with. Support your child as it is the honorable thing to do. You say you know the kid is yours, but for all you know she could be ****ing another guy too unbeknownst to both of you. Nothing in her character shows she isn't capable of this. Maybe it's his kid. Bottom line you and you girlfriend need some real help you decision making is very poor and is going to cause you years of pain.

For all you know her boyfriend could be just like you, or he could be a nice guy but just oblivious, she lied to you about him even existing for a long time.

Your girlfriend is a liar she lies to you how can you trust anything she says, and you ARE a homewrecker. Get used to it that is a label that will be with you now for the rest of your life. One things for sure you two do deserve each other, it's everyone else in your wake that deserve better.

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Wow, talk about being careful what you wish for. Here's the deal, stop sleeping with the married women and do whatever it takes to make a DNA test happen. If you're the biological father than co-parent and be there for your daughter. But run like hell from this woman who's had one or more babies through affairs otherwise you'll be raising your daughter and her 1/2 siblings that are supposedly yours later on. You need to see this girl you've been dating for what she is. She's the person cheating, getting pregnant, and tricking her husband.
You act like he deserves better. He deserves to be with this women forever.
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You act like he deserves better. He deserves to be with this women forever.
First off, don't ever assume you know the whole picture and pass judgement like this.

I was just here looking for advice on whether to leave her to make the decisions on my role with the her and the kid or if I should put more pressure on her to come clean.

I understand your point of view but please have a little respect for me and the situation.

There are kids involved and we are trying to do what is best for them in the long run.

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There are kids involved and we are trying to do what is best for them in the long run.
How old are the two of you?

You said that you two almost got caught, so now she wants to cool it so protect herself from being found out.

If she really wanted to be with you, she would already be with you. She's not married to the guy she's with. He's not the father of her other child. So it's easy for her to leave.

What's best for the child she is pregnant with right now it to do a DNA and find out if you actually the child's father. If you are, then you will need to go to court after the baby is born and sue for paternal rights, visitation/custody and pay child support.

Of course once you do that, her relationship with that other guy is going to fall apart and she will be on her own.
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Why would you want to be with this hoe bag! If she cheated with you she will cheat on you! This person has absolutely no moral character.

Whats best for the unborn child is a paternaty test and you to tell the poor husband what a **** bag his wife is!
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You already are a home wrecker - so a little bit too late to say I don't want to be a home wrecker. You should come clean with her partner and tell him the truth which is "I was going out with your wife/gf and when I found out that she was with you (and that you were a pretty good person who stepped up to be a dad to a kid that wasn't yours), I still decided to carry on with her and we now are having a baby together. What would you like me to do from now on ? "

Then let him decide what's next and if he asks you to back off then you should.

As for whether his miserable cheating wreck of a woman decides to come clean that is up to her.

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I couldn't agree more with this. I've been cheated on and I tell you what, if it weren't for my daughter, I would of tracked the POS down and beat some sense into him.

This is not some fairytale love story. This is extremely distasteful, and yes you are a homewrecker. You may have genitalia that says you're male, but that's as far as that goes.
To add to the fairy tale comes children.

Beautiful innocent children. Their cute faces, single tooth poking out from their lower gum. Looking up at Mommy and Daddy, no, looking at yet another Dude with Mommy.

Plopped into the mix of dysfunctional [adults?].

Adults, chronologically [age] only.

Use birth control...have your fun....less drama.

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I couldn't agree more with this. I've been cheated on and I tell you what, if it weren't for my daughter, I would of tracked the POS down and beat some sense into him.

This is not some fairytale love story. This is extremely distasteful, and yes you are a homewrecker. You may have genitalia that says you're male, but that's as far as that goes.
To add to the fairy tale comes children.

Beautiful innocent children. Their cute faces, single tooth poking out from their lower gum. Looking up at Mommy and Daddy, no, looking at yet another Dude with Mommy.

Plopped into the mix of dysfunctional [adults?].

Adults, chronologically [age] only.

Use birth control...have your fun....less drama.
Yep. The white knight jumps in to save the poor damsel in distress who can't seem to keep her legs together. The kids will end up with the sh!t end of the stick in this disaster and they did nothing.

There is nothing but an abundance of pain and misery in the many years ahead, all because of a naive white knight playing with fire.
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