Not sure if this is the best place for this thread, but I'd appreciate feedback from anyone who has used the Marriage Builders seminar/courses/programs in actual real life.
For some reason my initial journal/thread, where I had pages of info outlining my relationship and experiences in my marriage has been cut down to the last three pages only, so I can't refer any of you to my whole, long, bizarre story, and I'm so exhausted at re-hashing it in my head so many times that I can't even bear the thought of typing it all out again. But, I'll link to what's left of my thread here in case that's relevant to any feedback: http://http://talkaboutmarriage.com/...need-vent.html
In earlier pages on my above-mentioned thread someone recommended the Marriage Builders program to me, and I have no recollection of who it was, and obviously, with the other pages missing can't look back to ask them directly. H and I have spent time in MC in recent months, but are struggling with some aspects of it - we aren't huge fans of our therapist. She spends so much time and energy focused on our past and all the things we've done wrong to one another. We desperately need to start working on ways to do it better, instead of just wallowing in all the negatives. I've communicated this to her, but I am not really getting far with her. H and I have committed to one another that, if we both aren't feeling drastic improvements in our relationship by June, then we would begin to explore separation and divorce. I want to give this as much chance as possible - I don't want to divorce feeling like we didn't try everything we could.
I'd love to explore the idea of the Marriage Builders Programs, since we can schedule it into life more easily, and work side-by-side on it. I've ordered His Needs, Her Needs already, and will be sure to read it ASAP.
But, before I suggest it to H I'd like to hear about it a little more - pros and cons, if there is value for the cost, etc.
Thanks in advance for your help