Re: My Husband's Best Friend
I have never been in a relationship with anyone but my husband. He was my first everything. So my issue at is not about the sexual side of it all because in truth I can't see beyond my husband in that regard. And I have never analyzed my feelings for Chris outside of my disdain towards him. On a conscious level I am not attracted to him or feel flattered by his attention.
What I have noticed is that he is much like my husband. The things that attracted me to my husband are qualities that they both share. In addition to that, Chris and I also have things in common like we are both into fitness, we both pay attention to details and our career paths are the same so we speak the same language and could better relate to each other. Those were the things that made me realize that yeah, this guy is a really nice guy and yeah, it is time to move past the past because we are all grown up, with families now and have changed. We were starting to build a good friendship, but not one that excluded my husband. Once I had to look after a problem for him and I communicated to him through my husband even though he would have texted me directly. And even then I made sure I showed my husband his messages. It's not like he is troll, he quite an attractive man, its just that I feel insulted and betrayed by his actions and the fact that he is doing right in front of my husband pisses me off. The sad part of it all is that my husband didn't even know he was talking about me, he had forgotten about the moles on my lip, the one by my eyes and my dimples- SMH. My friend has neither of these things, so I don't think it was an innocent mistake.