Re: Toxic Friend
I moved out in 2009. Hubby & hubby's family acted like I was scum because my husband is legally blind so it was like I was leaving a 'blind man' when in reality, he can see a lot of things - just can't drive. I missed him, he missed me so we continued to see each other as often as possible - at least once a month - I was an hour away. So, after the same schmoozy "things will be better" - I moved back in 2014. People don't change. I went to a marriage counselor once when married to my son's father (the entire relationship only lasted 3 years.) The marriage counselor said I had 2 choices; 1. Accept hubby the way he is because people don't change unless they want to. or 2. Leave. I left and got a divorce. But I didn't love him the way I love my current husband. I was attracted to him from the start, he is the brother of a woman who, at the time, was my best friend. She was married to my brother too. So, for a while, it was great. The bottom line is, I believe my husband loves me as much as he's capable of loving any woman; he just may love his party buddies and party brother more. Can I live with that? We've been 'together' for 20 years and married for 18. I just have to let it go and get more personal interests and get more of my own life outside of my husband and our relationship. I've worked from home since 2005. Maybe I need to go back to the office. Idk.