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post #16 of 22 (permalink) Old 04-21-2017, 11:56 AM
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I moved out in 2009. Hubby & hubby's family acted like I was scum because my husband is legally blind so it was like I was leaving a 'blind man' when in reality, he can see a lot of things - just can't drive. I missed him, he missed me so we continued to see each other as often as possible - at least once a month - I was an hour away. So, after the same schmoozy "things will be better" - I moved back in 2014. People don't change. I went to a marriage counselor once when married to my son's father (the entire relationship only lasted 3 years.) The marriage counselor said I had 2 choices; 1. Accept hubby the way he is because people don't change unless they want to. or 2. Leave. I left and got a divorce. But I didn't love him the way I love my current husband. I was attracted to him from the start, he is the brother of a woman who, at the time, was my best friend. She was married to my brother too. So, for a while, it was great. The bottom line is, I believe my husband loves me as much as he's capable of loving any woman; he just may love his party buddies and party brother more. Can I live with that? We've been 'together' for 20 years and married for 18. I just have to let it go and get more personal interests and get more of my own life outside of my husband and our relationship. I've worked from home since 2005. Maybe I need to go back to the office. Idk.
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I'd seriously reevaluate my relationship with BIL for having such a d-bag friend, honestly. I wouldn't want Mooch around my family or me, especially if I had daughters. He's a misogynistic abuser who sounds highly unstable.
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When meeting up with Mooch, bring a frying pan with you. Or a wooden rolling pin.

Tap it against an open palm. He will get the message.

Chances are....if he knows you are coming, he will be "outa there".
It's more likely that he will get the frying pan or rolling pin away from her and use it himself in retaliation. This has to be the dumbest advice you can give someone.
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It's more likely that he will get the frying pan or rolling pin away from her and use it himself in retaliation. This has to be the dumbest advice you can give someone.
Uh, that was a joke, from me....J.O.K.E.

How do you survive in this Zoo, that we call Earth?

AND, mind are Wonky Ninja?

The "Wonky" seems to have fallen off the Ninja. Leaving you cold, naked and cranky!

Lighten up, buttercup.

This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out.

The Lion in Winter. Invictus..By Will, Shall... Saved from harm by my friends.
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Update: Mooch broke into brother-in-law's locker and stole some things. Bro told Mooch he had to go. Mooch says he can't leave til May 3rd. Remember folks, when you invite someone to live with you - even if it's an RV in the backyard hooked up to your electricity - it's hard to get them out. My anger is, now after months and years of my husband getting closer and closer to Mooch and taking up for Mooch over my devastated feelings, suddenly hubby is agreeing with bro - that Mooch is a piece of crap. It's sad when you realize that you've spent 20 yrs of your life loving a man who 'said' he loved you too but shows something totally different after he finds something he needs elsewhere. I don't know what the attraction is to Mooch but he definitely had my husband's loyalty until today and I think he secretly still does. Just like Brian Wilson was able to be brainwashed by a man for years. I don't know how the brainwashers do it because I'm not that evil but from what I've observed, the brainwasher consistently does things to make people feel sorry for him and then lies about things he does for charity like helping veterans and if his victims are nave or vulnerable, he can suck them dry of money and lives and loves can be ruined forever.
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record it and show you husband proof.
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