Thursday Jan 22 - H woke up very cranky. Just gave him space for an hour or so till he got to his second cup of coffee. He even gave my 8yr old son (whom he despises) a hug when I suggested it. That was a very big deal for him. That evening we Played trivial pursuit. He was nice and affectionate to me all day. I got a migraine about 10pm, took some meds that knock me out.
He came to bed at 1am and initiated sex. No foreplay, spooning me from behind. basically poked me in the lower back sort of thing. Guys, surely there is a better way of waking your woman up for sex?? lol. Entire session lasted four minutes from start to his coming. I was sooooo tired. Tried to ask him to wait till sometime when i was more awake. he ignored me. Afterwards he patted me in a rather condecending way, gave me a kiss and said 'there you can go back to sleep now" rolled over and went to bed. Yeesh!!
I didn't say anything about it - just acted like i liked it. Well, at least he's initiating sex. if you can call it that. How on earth do I get us back to having sex that it mutually enjoyable? Thank goodness I only agreed to 2x a week! This wham bam stuff stinks.
Friday Jan 23 - Nice to me all day, very sweet and affectionate. No longer doing the passive aggressive stuff. Nothing in what he's actually doing so much as a total change in attitude. A few hugs, some nice conversation. He drove the kids to their "grandma" (all but the baby) for the weekend. It's a one hour drive and he left at 7pm. He was gone till after midnight (when I went to bed)
Saturday Jan 24 - Slow day. several hugs. Nothing special. we went to the fights at a friends house. One time, when Paul was outside alone and the girls (my friends) were in the kitchen, one of the girls said to 'flash' Paul. they do this to their husbands if they know nobody else can see. I've seen them do this before and the hubsbands either blush or give a big thumbs up from outside or whatever. So I did. I'm not usually that bold. Paul just shrugged his shoulders at us like "what was that for?". Ok. don't do that again! Boy did i feel stupid. Then later I was feeling sleepy after the fights were over on TV (it was about 1am) I lay down on the couch in the den while all the guys went to play Magic. A little while later the same girl (Monica) that told me to flash my H brought in his coat to cover me with. Chivalry by proxy? H didn't offer the coat, she went in and basically told him to give it to me. Then told me it was his responsibility to his woman. Well ok. He hasn't done anything like that on his own for three years, since we were dating. I did notice that he let me wear it home too. In fact he insisted on it! That was nice.
Is it me or perhaps when he's not feeling 'romantic' towards me but is at least willing to drop the passive aggressive BS and be truly nice I see that for some reason he just didn't acquire the skills somewhere to treat a woman well?
Having to be told by another woman to give up his coat to his wife?
I guess you would call his sexual style 'insensitive' ?
Now when we were dating and he was 'in love' with me - all that romantic behavior and wanting (needing) to please me in bed was always there. He bent over backwards to make sure i was happy.
Seems if I can keep him around his friends, at least the females might 'train' him to be a bit more romantic. Now I just have to figure out how to train him in bed.
I guess just retraining somehow? Not sure. I'll give it a few more weeks with just telling him how wonderful he is and see if things improve. That's the week in review
Promises Made... 
He starts Monday. 12.00 whole dollars an hour!! well, it will help. 
