If your sex life is good, then its not a problem. If she is using a vibrator instead of having sex with you, then I think it is a problem - first step is to try to understand why.
Not sure why and i dont really want to ask her and ruin her good orgasms shes having on her own cause its really a turn on cause i audio record her ,the buzzing then the moan8ng its nice lol !!!
No one gets a woman off more than a vibrator. I have always encouraged my sex partners to do whatever is necessary for them to reach orgasm. Most women do not orgasm from just intercourse contrary to what we see in porn. I used to keep two vibrators in my night table, one for my wife and one for the girl we shared. They were used very often. My wife orgasms in under 3 minutes no matter how we do it but BOB, her battery operated buddy, gives her very intense orgasms so why not. My goal is not to be the macho man but rather to have my wife get the most pleasure out of sex as she can, anyway she can.
I have drawers full of sex toys. Perhaps that is why I had two women sharing me for 30 years and 30+ sex partners so far. No woman leaves my bed without an orgasm or two or three. Most times now, in our mid sixties, my wife will orgasm by her vibrator. As a result of that, she wants sex more often. I still get oral and then kiss and fondle her while she uses her vibrator for a few minutes until she cums. A vibrator is very vanilla sex these days. I have accommodated women with some very kinky ways to orgasm. Whatever gets them off is fine with me as long as they keep coming back for more.
Yes we been married 30yrs and sex is great im 52 shes 48 and she does love her vibrator and i won't stop her from using it not will i let her know that i know she's using it secretly on her own , hell i masturbate listening to her moan on my audio recorder
Sorry, champ, you are married to her, but you don't own her. She can do whatever she wants with her body. Also, don't go sneaking around, monitoring her activity. That's disrespectful. Stop being so insecure.
At least you're getting sex regularly. My wife has a once per month sex drive and uses her vibe a couple times a week in the meantime. There are issues of resentment and rejection as you can imagine. If I were you I'd let her have her fun as long as you're satisfied with the frequency of sex. In my case I no longer bother trying to initiate.
And you claim you don't feel insecure? You keep tabs on what she does when you aren't there because it might be a man, next time????
Yeah, sure. That's a lot of bad juju right there.
I do own my wife, but I would never record her without her knowing about it.
I had to buy my wife a damned vibrator myself, because she wouldn't. She texts me every time she uses it, to let me know how much fun she had while I'm stuck at work. Then she laughs, (LOL). But since she can come so many times every day, it just helps keep her hot and ready for me.
If she's open to it, talk to her about setting aside time for the 2 of you to figure out what works for her to get off when you're together. Make it about her pleasure. Open communication during love-making is key here.
How very intrusive and ignorant to assume anyone needs to control their spouse's desire to masturbate and make it all about both of you. I couldn't imagine being such a pitiful ass-clown that I'd secretly monitor and try to control my husband's occasional alone time. I just can't IMAGINE being that pathetic and having nothing better to do with my life than that.
And the OP's nauseating statements about spying on his wife and getting off listening to the recordings are so utterly cringe-worthy and intrusive that I hope his wife catches the pervert and kicks him to the curb so hard his mother feels it.
I wasn't talking about masturbating. What I meant is for the two of them to find a way that sex could be better for her when they are together-whatever that may mean is up to the couple and what they want and are comfortable with. Who would argue that that is a bad idea for any married couple?
I would not have a problem as long as we were still having our normal sex. We have a vast array of toys and I encourage the use of them while I'm out of town. We use toys together during most of our sexcapades.
Recording your wife without her agreement to the recording is a crime. There exists a legal expectation of privacy in certain places.. like in our own homes, our bedroom, bathroom etc.
If your wife found out what you are doing, she could have to removed from your home and even prosecuted. And yes there are cases where people have been prosecuted for doing this.
TAM is NOT a forum for you to brag about this sort of thing.
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