My name is Kate, I've been married for almost 5 years now, been with my husband for 7. Our marriage hasn't exactly been a fairy tale, as a matter of fact, it's been a wild roller coaster ride. Let me get to the point... My husband is the best "Mental Abuser" I've ever met. He says things that hurt me so bad, and he knows it. He always tells me that I'm lazy and he don't want me, tells me to leave, He gets these random anger spats and i have no clue why?? My hometown is 1200 miles away. He always threatens to find a girlfriend, and threatens to leave me. The things he says to me is just unbearable it tears me into pieaces, and he don't mind to say it with people around, its like he enjoys and is proud of the way he treats me. We had a few people over lastnight and he told me he was hungry, So I made him food and brought him a drink. He seen 2 girls and said " I don't know bout yall but damn look at that girls ass" everyone kind of looked at him like, are you serious? The guys kind of laughed it off, he said "I'm just saying what yall are thinking, you're too scared to say stuff like that with you're wife right there" and it really hurt my feelings. I simply said "babe please behave" he then proceeded to tell me if I didn't like it I could get the BLEEP out and called me names. I was so embarrassed and hurt. I kinda played it off and laughed a little. I had to get up and go to my room I cried my eyes out! Some of the girls waited a few mins and came in. My point is he is just so twisted in the head. He laughs at me when I cry, calls me a baby and tells me to go somewhere else and do it, when he knows damn well it's because of him. I have a 4 year old with him, I love him to death...But he has no respect for me whatsoever and i feel numb, ashamed, invisible, unwanted, alone. I need some advice.
Why would someone who "loves" you treat you this way? the better question, Why the hell do i love him so dearly and stay?