In the thread Alpha v Beta men,post 127 you gave your two descriptions of sensitive men.
1.Men who are easily hurt,who look for women to soothe and comfortable them and get resentful if it doesn't happen.
2.Men who are sensitive to the feelings of others but do not take offence easily themselves.
I can't link the post on an iPad, sorry.
Yes, I remember this. It could be said about women, too, btw.
These are simply two different interpretations of the word "sensitive." One means sensitive to oneself, and the other means sensitive to others.
The person who is sensitive to his or her own feelings first and foremost is likely the emotional dependent in the relationship. He or she often looks to the partner to soothe their hurt feelings, and possibly even intuit them.
When they are soothed and nurtured, they usually calm down and may be able to be open to the feelings of their partner, too. But without first being soothed by the partner, they may never feel safe enough to hear their partner's side of things. They need acknowledgement of their feelings first.
The person who is sensitive to others, without taking offense easily, is usually the emotional leader in the relationship. This person, male or female, is more easily able to hear a partner's hurt and soothe them without needing it right away themselves. They acknowledge the hurt feelings of the partner, and may explain why they did what they did.
Once the emotional leader has explained, the dependent often realizes that the action taken that hurt him or her was not done with malice. Hearing that there was no intention to cause pain is usually very healing in itself. The dependent wants to feel loved and safe with his or her partner. Hearing the perspective of the partner, and getting an apology, if appropriate, usually accomplishes that.
Andy, does this answer your question?