Re: 25th anniversary separate trip
Also, is your wife not one to do much for birthdays, anniversaries, etc.? Does she not expect you to do much for her birthday, for example?
People like this often do not understand why it is important to other people to make those occasions memorable. To them it is no big deal, and they just expect it is not a big deal to other people, either.
And if you are not like that, but are married to someone who is, it can be hard, and also embarrassing, to explain why it is a big deal to you. But you do have to explain it if you want to avoid or resolve resentment. IME.
One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man