Re: 25th anniversary separate trip
I normally am very sentimental and nostalgic, have always been a deeply emotional guy, but for some reason I think the entire 25th. anniversary thing is taking on to much focus for you OP. Of coarse that's coming from a divorced guy who was only married for twenty years!
My feelings....you show love and respect for each other every day you are together, it doesn't matter if it's day 1 or day 9,125, and that's what's important. What are you going to do on your 25th. anniversary that's any big deal? You have no grand event planned, you have gone out to hundreds of dinners, done dozens upon dozens of short trips and long weekends. Your wife has always wanted to go to Hawaii, you should have planned it! But you didn't, but she has a chance to go and you are going to make her regret it if she does, you would rater she stay home with you so you can wake up in the morning and go "wow, 25 years! I love ya baby!" Then someone has to let the dogs out, someone starts coffee, someone gets the paper, someone has to run to the store....ditto..ditto...ditto....another day.
If you want to show your wife you love her and care about her happiness why not give her your blessing to enjoy her trip? Be selfless, it's a very attractive trait.