Where did I say tell her **** you?
I am advising him to tell her enjoy herself and he will do likewise.I don't mean for him to be passive aggressive about this but make his position clear, he is not prepared to sit at home while his wife goes on a girl's only trip to Hawaii.
You tell me honestly if in two years time Dug tells you he is going to watch the Tour De France instead of accompanying you to Hawaii you would be so understanding about it.His wife's friends OWN the condo and I find it very hard to believe that this is the only week they can get away.Why doesn't she suggest both of them go another week instead.Her waiting for him to leave and then texting him is a ****ty move,she hadn't the courage to talk face to face with him.
You sometimes have to call a spade a spade in this life and she is treating her husband badly and he should spell it out to her in words capable of one interpretation only.
Sorry, should have clarified. If he sends a message that she perceives
as a big **** you, it could make any difficulties in the relationship even more challenging to deal with. No sense in escalating an already tense situation.
Did you see my post about our planning to go to Hawaii sometime during our 25th year
We have to have a bigger window because we want to take our kids, and so need to be flexible.
Plus, our anniversary is during warm weather in our region. I want to go to Hawaii when we can really appreciate it, not when it is already nice right here where we live.
If Dug told me he could go and follow the Tour
and stay for free with a friend, I would be happy for him. Not everyone has an opportunity like that.
I would expect an acknowledgement on the actual date, though, even if just a love letter and some delivered flowers. It is still a milestone.