This is exactly the same way love languages work. If you are the type of person where it would be important to you it is incumbent on your husband to get that and not blow it off. You would think after 25 years he would. If not there is something wrong with the communication of the marriage.
Actually, it isn't.
I can ask, but he is not obligated to do anything about it. And if he did it out of obligation, it would not feel meaningful to me, anyway.
The bolded illustrates the attitude that causes so many hurt feelings in marriage: entitlement.
As far the answers to your question I suspect the answers will be all over the place but if I were to put a number on it I would say 75-25 people would expect their spouse to be with them on their 25the wedding anniversary. You imply here that it IS important to you, you just hold your tongue.
If you think I hold my tongue in my marriage, you clearly do not know me.
By the way I think it pretty crappy your husband doesn't want to spend his 25th wedding anniversary with you, and you sucking it up pretty much follows the same pattern of the other posters wife, In your case it's him putting his desires over your feelings.
He would like to spend every day with me, sokillme.
But we are not independently wealthy. So Dug does what the job requires.
I get now why you think he should suck it up too, because this is the tact that you have taken. But you're wrong. Your husband should know better. It's your 25TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY, you only get one! South American will be there the next day.
I do not think WOM should "suck it up."
I told him to communicate clearly and directly with his wife. I said it in several posts.
Wherever Dug is on the exact date of our 25th anniversary, I will be fine. It is the marriage that is important to us, not the exact date of the celebration.
In the other thread your post is essentially - Well I don't feel that way so you are weak because you do.
Again, a false statement.
Your interpretation of my posts is just that--your interpretation.