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post #46 of 108 (permalink) Old 05-21-2017, 01:02 PM Thread Starter
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As I was on here and thinking about and editing my e-mail, she called this morning. Had my ringer off so I didn't know until later. She invited me over today. Just now got the e-mail the way I wanted it and sent it. Yes, it took me hours. Then I texted her that I sent her an e-mail.

I really hope I did the right thing. My head says I did but it is still hard.


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As I was on here and thinking about and editing my e-mail, she called this morning. Had my ringer off so I didn't know until later. She invited me over today. Just now got the e-mail the way I wanted it and sent it. Yes, it took me hours. Then I texted her that I sent her an e-mail.

I really hope I did the right thing. My head says I did but it is still hard.
Dude this woman is a grandmother isn't she a bit shall we say "mature" to be playing teenage jealousy games about movie actors and guys from the gym that she "runs into"all the time.You have sent your email so now she knows her game is over.The first thing you need to do is change your locks,you only need to change one if money is tight,you can bolt the other doors from inside.Do not just get your keys back it wouldn't be beyond her to have copies.Give her all her stuff back then break contact with her,Her grandkids.her family,everyone.
If ever a woman needed to be told to **** off it is this one.
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I just woke up. No response from her that she got it and read it.

Thanks for the support you all. I am alone and I do not have many people to even talk to about this.
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I just woke up. No response from her that she got it and read it.

Thanks for the support you all. I am alone and I do not have many people to even talk to about this.
She's probably in shock because you finally called her out on her bs.Don't let her give you some teary eyed sob story,stick to your guns and insist she gets her belongings out of your house.After a while you may want to try again but if you do make damn sure it is on your terms.There are a lot of women on this earth who just want a guy who will respect them and himself,you don't need a drama queen in your life.
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She's probably laughing her head off because she knows that you won't follow through with this.

This is like something out of high school...she has a GRANDCHILD ffs. Both of you need to grow up.
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My wife says the woman might be a little disappointed that she might have to move her stuff. But like you said, she probably knows the OP won't really do anything except keep on storing her stuff for free.

Wow, what a read. To the Original Poster: Stand up! Stop grovelling.
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frusdil and william,
WTF. I finally stopped groveling and stood up and you still give me ****. I came here for advice and took it to heart and did what I was supposed to do. Step off my sack.
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We just see your patterns and want you to. Ha he them for your own good. It's obvious to anyone that you are never going to have a healthy relationship with thus women, EVEN if she totally changed HER patterns (she won't) and came back to you for real.

Stay the course and put her in your rear view. I know you want the get back with her, it it will not happen and even if it did, it wouldn't be like you pictured it. This relationship is poison for you.

Stay strong. Resist. Don't go toward the light, lol.
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Andy and Evinrude,
Thank you. That is why I come here. For understanding and encouragement. It took a lot for me to do this. The friendship that we had and the relationship that we had was right. It was like it was meant to be. There are reasons that I have held on. I don't have time to write ALL the reasons that I felt that way. I try to put the main things out there. She was sweet and she was good. THEN it all started to change. Obviously I would be crazy to hang on to someone who uses me. But it was not always that way. It is hard to let go and, you can probably tell, part of me has been kicking and screaming to keep that from happening.

I took a big step today, thanks to you all. But it's like some would criticize me if I did anything less than throw her crap out, set it on fire, go ape$****, etc just to show that I have balls.
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I remember your threads about her. Yes, she definitely used you. You were given very good advice in those threads a year or more ago to go "no contact" and not look back. Why was she over there on Mother's Day?

I know it's very difficult to let her go. But it's in your best interest to move on. She really is a user. There are plenty of good women out there who would enjoy being with you. Look for them.

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I remember your threads about her. Yes, she definitely used you. You were given very good advice in those threads a year or more ago to go "no contact" and not look back. Why was she over there on Mother's Day?

I know it's very difficult to let her go. But it's in your best interest to move on. She really is a user. There are plenty of good women out there who would enjoy being with you. Look for them.
She invited me over for dinner with her and her family. I wasn't able to make it but she came over so we could go see a movie. I tried to still be her friend, hoping she would come back around. That's it in a nutshell.
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And that is exactly what we told you a year ago wouldn't work. You can't be her friend while trying to nice her back into a relationship.

I felt that was why you stopped posting. You were getting advice you didn't want to take. And now you're back. I hope for your sake that this time you can implement "no contact" and make it stick. It's the best thing for you.
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And that is exactly what we told you a year ago wouldn't work. You can't be her friend while trying to nice her back into a relationship.

I felt that was why you stopped posting. You were getting advice you didn't want to take. And now you're back. I hope for your sake that this time you can implement "no contact" and make it stick. It's the best thing for you.
I was not ready for it then. I did not know what was being said to be true. I have exhausted all avenues that I could and now I realize this is what I need to do.
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She's lying.

She's cheating.

She says the things that she says because she enjoys getting a rise out of you.

She hasn't cut you off because your awkward attempts at maintaining your composure while simultaneously trying to get her back both amuse her and inflate her perverted sense of self-worth.

Sorry.

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@LostinMO, everyone moves in their own time. That's okay, it's not the same for everyone. The point here is that you're ready to move on now. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. I'd say you gained, as you learned that others, even those we love, will put their own needs over yours. That's not bad, but when it conflicts with what you need out of the relationship something is going to give.

When you're done with NMMNG, here's another read when you get a chance, that might explain it ... Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No

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