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post #1 of 5 (permalink) Old 05-18-2017, 04:03 PM Thread Starter
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post #2 of 5 (permalink) Old 05-18-2017, 04:22 PM
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Re: Feeling lonely and mistreated

You desperately need to learn how to communicate effectively. Marriage counseling will help with this.
Also I would suggest that one of you looks for work near the other so that you can live together.
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Re: Feeling lonely and mistreated

Right women, wrong man.

I see oil and water personalities in you two.

He needs to grow up, you need a new man picker.

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Re: Feeling lonely and mistreated

He is mistreating you right now. So stop trying to contact him. Maybe send him one text telling him that you love him and when he is ready to talk, he can contact you. And then stop all communication. The more you run after him, the more he will run away from you.

Also, you both need to learn to not fight with yelling and saying horrible things to each other. This is killing the love between the two of you. So just stop it. If he starts yelling, just tell him that you do not want to fight and walk away. Stop the angry stuff if you want to have a good marriage. You have complete control over your anger and what comes out of your mouth.

He has complete control over his own anger and moth too. But he has to control that.
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You're married to a guy who lives separately except for the weekends, ignores you for days when he's angry with you, and tells you you're a horrible person? Of course this is affecting your health- you're in an abusive marriage.

I'd think long and hard about what you want from this marriage and send him a letter outlining what you need from him in order to stay married. Until he is ready to behave like a husband and treat you like a wife, I'd initiate a full separation going forward.

You may also want to investigate a possible affair. He's not interested in working things out with you and his detachment is a red flag.
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