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post #211 of 220 (permalink) Old 05-22-2017, 03:38 PM
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You are so wrong here. If you had children with this woman, then she couldn't possibly be crazy (according the poster you were responding to)

Uh, no...what I said was that she was mentally healthy enough for you to marry and have children with, but suddenly after you divorced she's "crazy?" And I also said that the mother of your children does not deserve to be labeled as "crazy" by you in public, unless she's a threat to herself and/or others, in which case, I'm certain you had her evaluated for the court, because you wouldn't want your children in custody of such a mentally disabled person, right?

I totally understand where you are coming from though. Many would say my ex was a saint, altruistic, vivacious, outgoing, personable and she was on the surface. But like you any time we were alone, no matter what I did was never good enough, I never made enough, I wasn't (pick whatever) enough. I was a failure not deserving of basic human decency. It wasn't always so, the change took a while but I still bought into for quite a few years. Was she crazy? I dunno, but a lot of people that knew us thought she had to be to do what she did.

"A lot of people" weren't in your marriage though. She was married to you and perfectly reasonable around others, but acted crazy around you, according to you. This may be true- but like I pointed out, psychologists see this phenomenon all of the time in couples who are unable to get along. When a woman is resentful and hurt by her spouse, her emotions are telling her to do whatever it takes to repel her spouse, thus the seemingly crazy behavior toward you. Instead of claiming the marriage ended because your ex is crazy, consider that the marriage ended because she couldn't control her emotions around you, for reasons that likely had to do with both of you. This is far more likely the case than that she is mentally "crazy," unless she has a medical diagnosis.


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I love this! Needing to hear nice positive stories. It's tempting to me, even being late 30s to sometimes feel too old.
You have nothing to fear. A woman who takes good care of herself gets sexier as she gets older. Older women are better at conversation, smarter, much more interesting to engage with, tend to not be as shallow and superficial as younger women, and are way better in bed than younger women. A mature woman knows what she wants in bed and isn't afraid to ask for it.
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You have nothing to fear. A woman who takes good care of herself gets sexier as she gets older. Older women are better at conversation, smarter, much more interesting to engage with, tend to not be as shallow and superficial as younger women, and are way better in bed than younger women. A mature woman knows what she wants in bed and isn't afraid to ask for it.
and will also be up to date on the icons of the time.......

back when my husband was still FB friends with his so called friend, he just had to mention to me how she wrote on her FB wall that on a train ride she met the lead singer of a fairly popular 80s band. Who the hell are they she asks on her wall? For my husband, it was another reminder of how little they had in common.
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and will also be up to date on the icons of the time.......

back when my husband was still FB friends with his so called friend, he just had to mention to me how she wrote on her FB wall that on a train ride she met the lead singer of a fairly popular 80s band. Who the hell are they she asks on her wall? For my husband, it was another reminder of how little they had in common.
After a looooooot of pressure I dated a 28 year old last year for a few months. He was just always asking me out so I agreed in the end. After about two months of enjoying all the fun and sweetness he invited me to a party at his house and they were drinking out of plastic cups and he had room mates. So funny. I felt like the Mom.

Anyway...! Was a fun experience and he was sweet but I prefer men my own age so we have stuff in common
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After a looooooot of pressure I dated a 28 year old last year for a few months. He was just always asking me out so I agreed in the end. After about two months of enjoying all the fun and sweetness he invited me to a party at his house and they were drinking out of plastic cups and he had room mates. So funny. I felt like the Mom.

Anyway...! Was a fun experience and he was sweet but I prefer men my own age so we have stuff in common
Yeah but I bet you pounced on him. Bet ya did.....
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Yeah but I bet you pounced on him. Bet ya did.....
Lol, not alllll older women are cougars
Not that there's anything wrong with that.....
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Yeah but I bet you pounced on him. Bet ya did.....


Sophie I think it would do you a world of good to spend the night with this "kid"on an occasional as-needed basis.
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Lol, not alllll older women are cougars
Not that there's anything wrong with that.....
You're right.

Some are cougars...some are lionesses...some are cheetahs....some are tigers....
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You're right.

Some are cougars...some are lionesses...some are cheetahs....some are tigers....
Although Sophie really isn't quite old enough to be any of the above. She is only in her 30's

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@Ynot, I think it's time to move on and stop with the T/J.

@Sophie55, sorry for getting into a side-issue on your thread. I have no doubt that you'll meet someone better. Honestly, it sounds like you dodged a bullet with the Dr. I still can't believe how much he told your sister!

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