That sounds the most likely scenario so far. Thank you. It did feel, to be honest, like we started a relationship that night and for me that felt wonderful / exciting and for him obviously the opposite.
As someone said earlier, I guess if someone is a player and has great sex they want to at least keep having it until something new comes along.
I do think the sex was crazily good and from his response and the ability at age 41 to have in 9 times in 12 hours he obviously enjoyed it too - but in this case instead of wanting more after putting in all the ground work, he ran for the hills because it felt too much like a relationship.
If he is a player, that date not only led to great sex. It also led to a level of non-sexual intimacy that a player will seek to avoid. Players want sex, not non-sexual intimacy. So, he ended your ‘relationship’ because it had become intimate on a level that he does not want to engage in.
Plus, you might not be the only woman he is seeing and having great sex with.
I don’t think it does you a lot of good trying to guess why he did what he did. Accept his actions at face value. You gave him a lot during that date, not just sex, but a lot on non-sexual intimacy. You let him very close. And his reaction was to reject you. Just accept that at face value.
When I was younger, my friends and I dated a lot. I saw a lot of guys do this to my friends who let the relationship turn to sex quickly. It’s so common that we used to joke to not have sex with the guy because clearly sex makes men evaporate, disappear.
Accept his actions at face value. He does not want a relationship with you. He was wrong to let things get to the point they did and then split. Either way you know now that this is not a guy to have a relationship with.
Stop trying to second guess all this.