I don't know what to do.
I have been with my wife for 6 years, married for 1.
We both work 7 days a week. We both make pretty good $$$, about the same as each other. We have a home together, which is where most of our $$$ is tied up in.
I can't stand her anymore. She nags all the time.
She was so beautiful when I met her, now she put on about 100 pounds and I don't find her attractive anymore. Just seeing her flabby arms or belly and I just shake my head. I know weight is delicate to women, so I don't say anything. She will randomly say I am going to start working out on monday and never follow through. She wears sweats all the time, I see guys in public with their wives / GF's and they are dressed nice and take care of their bodies and I am envious. I want my wife to look good too, I want to show her off to the world.
She is very controlling with $$$ and decisions, but I let her have her way, because it usually isn't worth arguing about. She forgets alot, she will yell about some arbitrary thing, then 10 mins later act like nothing happened. I have learn't not to argue, just apologize even if it's for something crazy and try and move on.
She has this one friend who is a brain washer. She goes and fills my wifes head with all kind of stuff like how her husband buys her all the fancy stuff then I have to hear about it.
Both of our pay cheques go into the same account and she handles the finances. So I don't know why she acts like I am stingy with $$$ when we both have access to all the $$. I
All in all, I hate her family, I hate her friends and I hate my life. I am so miserable. I am developing anxiety and depression issues.
Some days I just think, give her everything in the bank account / everything in the house. Sell the house, take my half and walk.
But I don't have the courage, plus I know it will break my parents hearts. They are from the time, where you get married and stick it out through thick and thin.
I am open to any advice, what do you guys think about my situation?
UPDATE:
Thanks to everyone who replied.
So two days ago, we had a huge fight over patio furniture and I just erupted and let it all out. I told her exactly how I feel about her weight, her nagging, her sh*t friend and family etc.
She just stood there with deer in head lights eyes, then flipped out and kicked me out of the house.
I went and stayed by a friend for a couple days, didn't try and make any contact.
Today she called and said she wanted to talk. She said she hates her weight also and she wants us to get gym memberships together and work out together to keep each motivated.
She also admitted, that she felt bad for comparing me to her friends husband, because I sacrificed alot to give my wife the dream home she wanted. Just the kitchen to her liking cost close to 30K.
She said she will try and not nag me and be more loving and supportive.
Only time will tell if things will get better or not.
I will update this thread in a couple months.
I have been with my wife for 6 years, married for 1.
We both work 7 days a week. We both make pretty good $$$, about the same as each other. We have a home together, which is where most of our $$$ is tied up in.
I can't stand her anymore. She nags all the time.
She was so beautiful when I met her, now she put on about 100 pounds and I don't find her attractive anymore. Just seeing her flabby arms or belly and I just shake my head. I know weight is delicate to women, so I don't say anything. She will randomly say I am going to start working out on monday and never follow through. She wears sweats all the time, I see guys in public with their wives / GF's and they are dressed nice and take care of their bodies and I am envious. I want my wife to look good too, I want to show her off to the world.
She is very controlling with $$$ and decisions, but I let her have her way, because it usually isn't worth arguing about. She forgets alot, she will yell about some arbitrary thing, then 10 mins later act like nothing happened. I have learn't not to argue, just apologize even if it's for something crazy and try and move on.
She has this one friend who is a brain washer. She goes and fills my wifes head with all kind of stuff like how her husband buys her all the fancy stuff then I have to hear about it.
Both of our pay cheques go into the same account and she handles the finances. So I don't know why she acts like I am stingy with $$$ when we both have access to all the $$. I
All in all, I hate her family, I hate her friends and I hate my life. I am so miserable. I am developing anxiety and depression issues.
Some days I just think, give her everything in the bank account / everything in the house. Sell the house, take my half and walk.
But I don't have the courage, plus I know it will break my parents hearts. They are from the time, where you get married and stick it out through thick and thin.
I am open to any advice, what do you guys think about my situation?
UPDATE:
Thanks to everyone who replied.
So two days ago, we had a huge fight over patio furniture and I just erupted and let it all out. I told her exactly how I feel about her weight, her nagging, her sh*t friend and family etc.
She just stood there with deer in head lights eyes, then flipped out and kicked me out of the house.
I went and stayed by a friend for a couple days, didn't try and make any contact.
Today she called and said she wanted to talk. She said she hates her weight also and she wants us to get gym memberships together and work out together to keep each motivated.
She also admitted, that she felt bad for comparing me to her friends husband, because I sacrificed alot to give my wife the dream home she wanted. Just the kitchen to her liking cost close to 30K.
She said she will try and not nag me and be more loving and supportive.
Only time will tell if things will get better or not.
I will update this thread in a couple months.