I grew up an only child from a lower middle class family. Father was a Navy Veteran who worked in a warehouse and mother worked in a dress factory, sewing clothes as a seamstress.
I had a 6 year relationship that went south, which started in high school. We were engaged but she left me.
I met someone else some time later, we fell in love, and got married. Married for 20 years. It was rocky at times, but we seemed to work things out. My child started driving independently recently, and my wife's time shifted to concentrate on herself. She wants a separation.
I grew up, as I said, being less than fortunate. I stayed in school and eventually became a physician. I served in the military and moved into the private sector. Boy. The money was definitely better, and I was like a kid in a candy store with a big wallet. Got crazy at times, getting various things along the way. My recent hobby has been guns and reloading.
She wants me to change my ways. Stop being selfish and making myself a priority. She wants me to get rid of my guns. She wants me to change who I am. If I follow her, my career is not ideal at all, in my specialty (I currently have a dream job with high pay and more than a generous vacation). It's definitely in the top 1% of the pay scale. Maybe even higher.
I have no debt aside from a mortgage which just helps reduce my tax burden. My house is well over a million dollars but I owe less than half. I don't have credit card debt. Everything is paid in cash.
I don't know if I can change my ways. I want to and I have been given a chance at not spending like a "drunk sailor", for a lack of better terms. Shooting and guns has become a passion for me.
I love my wife. I love my child. I am in internal turmoil on what to do. My wife and I have drifted apart, mainly from me socializing with my friends and taking people to go shooting with me. I've never cheated on her. I never will. I never had an intention of ending a marriage but that is what she wants.
How do I do a 180 and change myself so drastically? Make myself less selfish for myself. Give up my hobbies. Change my personality?
Do I seek psychiatric or psychological help? Do I seek a counselor?
Any advice?
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I had a 6 year relationship that went south, which started in high school. We were engaged but she left me.
I met someone else some time later, we fell in love, and got married. Married for 20 years. It was rocky at times, but we seemed to work things out. My child started driving independently recently, and my wife's time shifted to concentrate on herself. She wants a separation.
I grew up, as I said, being less than fortunate. I stayed in school and eventually became a physician. I served in the military and moved into the private sector. Boy. The money was definitely better, and I was like a kid in a candy store with a big wallet. Got crazy at times, getting various things along the way. My recent hobby has been guns and reloading.
She wants me to change my ways. Stop being selfish and making myself a priority. She wants me to get rid of my guns. She wants me to change who I am. If I follow her, my career is not ideal at all, in my specialty (I currently have a dream job with high pay and more than a generous vacation). It's definitely in the top 1% of the pay scale. Maybe even higher.
I have no debt aside from a mortgage which just helps reduce my tax burden. My house is well over a million dollars but I owe less than half. I don't have credit card debt. Everything is paid in cash.
I don't know if I can change my ways. I want to and I have been given a chance at not spending like a "drunk sailor", for a lack of better terms. Shooting and guns has become a passion for me.
I love my wife. I love my child. I am in internal turmoil on what to do. My wife and I have drifted apart, mainly from me socializing with my friends and taking people to go shooting with me. I've never cheated on her. I never will. I never had an intention of ending a marriage but that is what she wants.
How do I do a 180 and change myself so drastically? Make myself less selfish for myself. Give up my hobbies. Change my personality?
Do I seek psychiatric or psychological help? Do I seek a counselor?
Any advice?
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