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Sometimes people are 'just friends' though! lol Geez. I have "just friends" that I talk to sometimes...and I'm not cheating.
You have to talk to her and gage her reaction about this "friend". Then you'll know.
He's not a friend of hers.........he calls her Mrs. F for crying out loud.
They have exchanged e-mails twice in the last month. Once asking for permission to use the gun and the second was thanking him for using the gun (first one she told me about, second one she didn't). Maybe she did not tell me about the second one because she knew that I would freak.........don't know.
Well, your wife has no intention with him, I'm sure.
But don't doubt that he isn't fantasizing about your wife. lol He's SEVENTEEN! Cut the boy some slack. Is your wife hot? Then...if you think so, imagine what a 17 year old thinks about an older woman giving him the time of day.
My brother was like that with my friends (we're 13 years apart). He was such a horndog at 17 and my friends were 30. Omg. lolll Made me laugh...he had NO chance in hell but they'd smile at him and god knows how he violated his own body while thinking about that.
Well, your wife has no intention with him, I'm sure.
But don't doubt that he isn't fantasizing about your wife. lol He's SEVENTEEN! Cut the boy some slack. Is your wife hot? Then...if you think so, imagine what a 17 year old thinks about an older woman giving him the time of day.
My brother was like that with my friends (we're 13 years apart). He was such a horndog at 17 and my friends were 30. Omg. lolll Made me laugh...he had NO chance in hell but they'd smile at him and god knows how he violated his own body while thinking about that.
Your post makes me feel a LOT better. To answer your question, my wife is VERY attractive.....bout 5'-6", brunette, big brown eyes, and curves in ALL the right places . Definitely does not look like she has seven children that's for sure!! I am a lucky guy.............think I will quite being a paranoid husband and get back to work taking care of her!!
Like I said, he's 17. Remember when you were 17? omg. My brother was so bad. He's still awful (at 23).
I bet all your friends were totally innocent of egging him on to weren't they?? You bunch of meanies - teasing a 17 year old hormone like that - shame shame...
The gun that we got for her was a 9mm. The instructor at the course yesterday suggested using a 22.........it would make the shooting portion of the course much easier. And it did.
So what you're telling us is that your caliber is bigger than his, right?
I have posted here before.........talking about crushes and so forth.
I would like to know what everyone thinks about what constitutes an Emotional Affair? Our intimacy has been fabulous, but again, the young man that has a crush on my wife is still bothering me.
We took a firearms class yesterday in an effort to work towards our concealed carry license and this young man let my wife borrow one of his Dad's guns, smaller caliber. No big deal right? Well I found out this morning that she e-mailed him last night (without my knowledge) letting him know that she passed.
What could a 40 year old woman POSSIBLY get from a 17 year old that she is not getting from me? I am taking care of ALL of her needs (or so I thought) both sexually and emotionally. She is not acting withdrawn, we still talk often, etc., etc.Anyone have any suggestions?? What should I do? This kid is a GOOD friend of my sons and I do not want to destroy that relationship by any means! I am a little on the pissed off side ride now and could use some feedback!!!!
Ew.....there is no reason for your 40 year old wife to be 'friends' with a 17 year old friend of your son's...
Keep your wife's relatoinship with this boy in check.
That is, make sure of no secrecy from your wife to you concerning this boy, as in any opposite sex "friendship". Lack of secrecy is the key.
With that said, drop any signs that you are "threatened" by this boy. Right now. That is not helping you at all.
Instead, far far FAR better to simply TEASE your wife about her boy crush friend, from a position of amusement. Have fun with it. "If he only knew how high maintenance/expensive you are, think he'd still want to steal you from me then?" etc etc etc...really tease her with a wink and a smile about it.
This does two things:
1. It shows you are aware of the crush, also making sure your wife aware in case she is the naive sort.
2. It shows even though you aware, you are not threatened. Because of course, this boy is no competition to you. You handle the situation much like a sh!t test, and get rewarded much like passing a sh!t test.
Again, make sure your wife's behavior is appropriate (no secrets/hiding/full blown EA/PA etc), then it is best for you to have a lot of fun with this situation.
He's 17. He looks at EVERYTHING that has breasts in a weird way.
Yes, I remember those days and it certainly didn't take much to get excited about. I agree with other posters who say to have fun with it with your wife. Remember, he can't (or shouldn't) touch her or do things with her like you can
Don't sweat it. Your wife is hot and the kid has a crush on her. No biggie. Nothing wrong with keeping tabs, but ultimately you need to trust your wife to keep the little horndog at arms length. Use this opportunity to tell your wife how young she looks, how beautiful she is to you, and start courting and sparking her again. Treat her like you did when you were dating her. Be her boyfriend not her husband.
Don't sweat it. Your wife is hot and the kid has a crush on her. No biggie. Nothing wrong with keeping tabs, but ultimately you need to trust your wife to keep the little horndog at arms length. Use this opportunity to tell your wife how young she looks, how beautiful she is to you, and start courting and sparking her again. Treat her like you did when you were dating her. Be her boyfriend not her husband.
She HAS kept him at arms length. And I DO trust my wife.
We are a fun family and this boy has the same type of attitude that the rest of my children have.......as posted earlier, he is liked by all. My wife has even gone to the extent of TELLING him that some of his teasing/goofing around COULD be viewed as highly inappropriate. That seemed to help. I have been tempted, but my wife has asked that I do not say anything to him for fear that I would be a little too aggressive. When it comes to my family, I am VERY protective!!!
Re: What are the signs of an EA 
Cut the boy some slack. Is your wife hot? Then...if you think so, imagine what a 17 year old thinks about an older woman giving him the time of day.
. Definitely does not look like she has seven children that's for sure!! I am a lucky guy.............think I will quite being a paranoid husband and get back to work taking care of her!!
