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post #1 of 90 (permalink) Old 06-14-2017, 03:23 PM Thread Starter
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He looks at me quite a lot?

hi guys... So I need some advice here.

There is a guy I saw at my uni last week. He is handsome and but I never saw him until last week when he was buying something in the canteen and I felt someone was looking at me and I saw him looking at me.

That same day , both of us were sitting in the same area ( he was with his friend and I was with mine) and I noticed him look at me once or twice.
He left with his friend a few minutes later but when he went to get his phone, our eyes met as I caught him looking over at me.

I didn't see him for the next three days but yesterday I saw him and as usual he looked at me. He was doing some decorative work in the canteen and today I saw him talking with a group of people and I noticed him notice me when I passed by him in the morning and afternoon.

I really like him but I am shy to speak to him. He is definitely a PHD or MSc student but he looks much older than me though (he's probably 25-26 but looks older I guess as he is scruffy and keeps a manbun). and he isn't helping much as all he does is stare at me. Like whenever I pass by or I am near by him, he definitely gives me a look.

What should I make of this? Does he find me attractive or he likes me?
Update: I don't know about sociable but he is very open and friendly towards the people he knows, always meeting people with a huge smile and laughing and talking.
But whenever sees me, he looks a me rather intently//seriously?

I had never seen him up close until today when we saw each other at the stairs and he stared right back at me in a rather piercing way (if that is how I put it
) His stare was really intense. I wanted to smile back but the way he was looking at me, I just couldn't.

He came to my table today before we encountered each other at the stairs to invite me and my friends to a group protestation his class is doing and he was fine there. Like he was smiling and his look towards me was normal in front of my friends. he was sitting near his friend and once again I spotted him look once or twice

He came to my table today before we encountered each other at the stairs to invite me and my friends to a group protestation his class is doing and he was fine there. Like he was smiling and his look towards me was normal in front of my friends. he was sitting near his friend and once again I spotted him look once or twice.

When he looks at me when both of us aren't around people, he just looks at me in a rather serious and intense way. what could this mean?

And I also noticed one thing. When we joined his class, I noticed he caught up with a guy friend and they talked and his guy friend looked at me once.

I just want to clarify one thing. I am not the one who looks at him. The first time I saw him, I felt as if someone was looking at me and when I looked up,I saw him. It's just that our eyes tend to meet and I get to see him.

So what do I perceive from his actions??

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Does he like me? how to approach him?

hi guys... So I need some advice here. Posted this in GD (everyone is looking) but nobody is responding.

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hi guys... So I need some advice here. Posted this in GD (everyone is looking) but nobody is responding.
There are always many time more people who look a thread than who respond to a thread. YOu need to give it time.

I'm going to combine your threads because we only want one thread per topic. You will get better responses that way.

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There are always many time more people who look a thread than who respond to a thread. YOu need to give it time.

I'm going to combine your threads because we only want one thread per topic. You will get better responses that way.
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It does sound like he might be interested in you. If he is, he will approach you.

If you want to let him know that you are interested, just smile to him when the next time you catch him looking at you. After he catches the smile, look away. That will give him the ok to approach you.

Keep in mind that he might be married or engaged. So he might find you attractive but not want to act on it because of is status.

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It does sound like he might be interested in you. If he is, he will approach you.

If you want to let him know that you are interested, just smile to him when the next time you catch him looking at you. After he catches the smile, look away. That will give him the ok to approach you.

Keep in mind that he might be married or engaged. So he might find you attractive but not want to act on it because of is status.
I find it so difficult to smile at him since he always has such a serious expression on his face when he looks at me. I tried to do so today but the way he was gazing into me, I just couldn't do it. He isn't married or engaged though.
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How do you know that he is not married or engaged?

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How do you know that he is not married or engaged?
He had this advertisement form put up in the students centre for a flat mate. In which he wrote his address, his martial status, the institution he goes to and the amenities available in his flat.

He was putting that up last week right after I saw him.
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Re: Does he like me? how to approach him?

Lol,

Wow you are really anlyazing his every move!

Yea he thinks your attractive,cute,hot appealing to the eye. But he doesn't have the stones to approach you yet.my best advice is be plesent smile when he looks your way .

Or just walk up and say I see you checking me out are you going to make a move or not? Then walk away!

Good luck
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Re: Does he like me? how to approach him?

He's obviously attracted to you.

You've smiled back, which should be all the encouragement he needs.

The fact that he hasn't approached you yet, given that you're obviously both attracted to each other is a bit spooky. Not in a weird way, just in a way that makes me think he lacks confidence, which is not generally attractive in a man.

The longer the glances and smiles go on without actual contact, the less likely contact is or if it happens, the more likely it is to be painfully awkward.

You may need to initiate. Next time you're out in the quad, have a cup of coffee in one hand. Approach him, hand him one of the cups and say "My name's Isabel. Let's chat." Take a sip from your cup to give him a chance to gather himself, and see how he responds.

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You can't know for sure, but its possible that he is attracted to you but is shy about saying anything. There are some extremely nice guys who are just shy around women - but once you break the ice would be great.

Find an excuse to ask him to join you for coffee. Ask him to join if he walks by your table. I know its tough, but just ask him.

If he turns you down - honestly it isn't the end of the world. There isn't a guy in a hundred who minds having a pretty woman invite him for coffee.

If he is married, or not interested - he almost certainly will find a polite way to decline, or have coffee but steer the conversation to be formal. That's fine, no loss, you will know that for whatever reason he doesn't want any sort of relationship.

If he is interested, your taking the first step will make him comfortable asking for anther date.


I was very shy when I was growing up. Its only as I got older that I finally realized that there is no harm in politely asking. As long as you leave the other person a polite way to decline, and understand that being turned down isn't a horrible reflection on *you*, then there is nothing lost.

I would have been so much happier in high school and college if I had just managed to convince myself of what I just wrote.


You future self will smack you upside the head if you don't approach him.
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Honestly I think you'll have to ambush him or meet him head on. Too much time in front of electronic devices has resulted in guys unable / unskilled at approaching girls.

A clever girl will initiate but make it appear as though the guy is initiating. Like accidentally leave a book or folder behind with your number on it (have a friend discretely watching it), or literally bump into him. You could even call the number, tell him you might have a friend interested in the flat, and just want to see if it's still available - then tell him you're the girl that saw him at xyz...


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Just channel your future self... all the women I know have no problems letting their husbands know exactly what they want them to do


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You don't even need tricks.

Would anyone (who isn't wearing a wedding ring) be offended or react badly to a girl asking "I saw you at XYZ, would you like to get a coffee?".

You might get "sure!". (yes)
or
"I'm really busy but could we do it tomorrow?" (yes)
or
"sorry, I'd love to but I have to run". (no)





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Honestly I think you'll have to ambush him or meet him head on. Too much time in front of electronic devices has resulted in guys unable / unskilled at approaching girls.

A clever girl will initiate but make it appear as though the guy is initiating. Like accidentally leave a book or folder behind with your number on it (have a friend discretely watching it), or literally bump into him. You could even call the number, tell him you might have a friend interested in the flat, and just want to see if it's still available - then tell him you're the girl that saw him at xyz...


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You don't even need tricks.



Would anyone (who isn't wearing a wedding ring) be offended or react badly to a girl asking "I saw you at XYZ, would you like to get a coffee?".



You might get "sure!". (yes)

or

"I'm really busy but could we do it tomorrow?" (yes)

or

"sorry, I'd love to but I have to run". (no)


Except all the girls I know won't directly ask a guy out. I've polled all of my nieces and many other young women.


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