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post #1 of 31 (permalink) Old 06-17-2017, 11:34 AM Thread Starter
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Have you ever been told this or said this?

We were made for eachother and/or we were meant to be together?

I have been told this. I know some others on here have because they have mentioned this in their posts. Is it just a "feel good" thing to say in the moment? IF it was true then, wouldn't it still be true now? Many of us are no longer with the person that said these words to us.

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We say this often in our marriage. My husband had never been married and that was because he hadn't found the right person. I also did not ever feel the way I do toward my current hubby about my 20+ year XH.

No relationship is perfect, and we struggle with differing sex drives. That's our challenge. I feel if it wasn't that it would be something else...combining two very well established adult lives and all that entails. Ultimately it seems like it should have been a lot harder than it was.

Our issue aside, we truly prefer to spend every moment together and we practically do because of our circumstances. All our friends and family can't believe how we are. We seriously miss each other when I go grocery shopping. I hope it won't fade in time. My parents certainly never did. Their love just got bigger and better over time, and I feel like we are doing that too.

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Some people just get along and compliment each others personalities so well that it seems like you were meant for that person. I think it is just a nice thing to say when things just blend so perfectly together.

I felt that way about my ex and my kids dad, but neither worked out for other reasons and regardless of what tore apart both relationships, I will always love them both very deeply.


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I've see way too many people claim they were "meant to be together," only to split up weeks, months, or years later. The partnerships that we find ourselves in is due to the choices we make in life, not because of any predestination.

If our lives were predetermined in that way, I would find it... unsettling...
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My husband said this to me after we visited a reader (or whatever) in his little European home town. According to her, we're soul mates, although I'm a very new soul and he's a very old soul. SHe said he never lived past 25 when he was any of hsi other souls because he was either making terrible decisions or doing too much for other people and just burning out. Apparently, he'll live to a ripe old age with me lol I laugh but it was actually a very intense and lovely reading
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We were made for eachother and/or we were meant to be together?

I have been told this. I know some others on here have because they have mentioned this in their posts. Is it just a "feel good" thing to say in the moment? IF it was true then, wouldn't it still be true now? Many of us are no longer with the person that said these words to us.

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Yeah! Both my XW and my RSXW had said the same damned thing about our early marriage unions when I was with each of them! Never quite remember, however, hearing those same dazzling remarks being reiterated at either of the divorce hearings!

Sadly, those words and a $1.00 bill will buy you a nice hot cup of java, provided that the java still costs a buck!

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My parents were married for forty four years they died when I was twenty seven and I honestly can't remember them ever spending a night apart.My brother is married over thirty years and he told me a few weeks ago that it is over twenty years since him and his wife spent a night without each other and that was because of bad weather.
Some people just gel and it sounds as corny as hell but two can become one.
On a side note both my parents died on the same day so hopefully they are still together somewhere.

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It's true in the moment for the person saying it. Nothing in life is permanent, so this feeling may not last. YMMV.

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Some people just gel...
True. We gelled when she said those words to me. It didn't last in this case. Sad how things can change.
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Yes, I've been told that and I'm no longer with the person who said it. I think people often get caught up in the moment and later change their mind. Or something.

In your case, try as you may you'll never figure out the truth of why your ex-gf said that -- and neither will the rest of us who are not with that person now. It just happened. And so we move on because that's what we need to do.

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It's a nice thought, but unrealistic.


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Hormonally-inspired nonsense, IMO.

A nice sentiment, though.

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Variations I have said and had said to me. It is not a negative thing in fact it would be terrible if someone said "we weren't made for each other" yet remained with you.

MrH V2 and I were meant to be together without any doubt in my mind at all but I am realistic and know that life can change, people can change. We are one of those couples that have an energy field around us and so many people have commented to me how we exude a happy, positive vibe and they enjoy being around us.

But meant to be together in our case is about many things, we are compatible but we also challenge each other which means that even at our ages we are growing individually and as a couple.
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No but I think we were both lucky to have found each other. Neither of us were what the other was looking for; probably why we're still together decades later


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We were made for eachother and/or we were meant to be together?

I have been told this. I know some others on here have because they have mentioned this in their posts. Is it just a "feel good" thing to say in the moment? IF it was true then, wouldn't it still be true now? Many of us are no longer with the person that said these words to us.

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I was told this, or something similar. And we are still together 28 years later...


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