So, this guy is married and is the brother of my sister-in-law. I got a text asking what time it was here in Idaho last night,
which I thought was bizarre, but I answered and left it alone and then I see a text from him this morning
saying that I was up late. I'm like Yeah, so?
Then he says he's contacted me for his own perverse reasons and I say "Okaay?"
He says, "Just delete this so you're safe on your end and please don't say anything
to "****" and "Jane" (Brother and sis-in-law) and I'll leave you alone.
I say I haven't done anything wrong so no need to delete anything.
He says, "Yet"
He says, "I heard something that intrigued me and I have seen your tits a long time ago. I was
wondering what they look like now and your little ***** as well. You may still back away"
I say, "I don't know where you would have seen them. But I'm definitely not interested. You're
starting down a dangerous road. You should talk to your wife and let her know you're unhappy
and try to work on your marriage instead of starting something with someone else.
He says, "LOL, when you and (ex-boyfriend) were dating you took your top off in the pool.
Anyhow, no worries, my wife knows who I am very well."
I say, "If you have an open marriage, then that's all well and good but I'm still not interested.
He says that "****" and "Jane" don't know about the open marriage. I tell him I heard
about it from them. (I should have shut it down here or much earlier.)
He says, "Just heard you like to "insert sexual thing" and wondered how open you were. And that you
never had an issue with playing. Point is taken ma'am. So I'll shh and back away."
I said, pretty much every woman on the planet likes to "insert sexual thing", doesn't make me
special. Bye Sherlock.
And then I said "Obviously you have some information I'm not comfortable with you having.
No hard feelings. And then I blocked him on face book.
My plan is to let my husband know tonight and then to call his wife in a few days to make sure
their marriage is still open. I had heard from my sister-in-law that it was closed, but this
was a few years ago. Maybe it never actually closed. Who knows?
He obviously doesn't want my sister-in-law to know that her brother is hitting up her former
best friend. I'm not sure if I should tell her or not. They were aware that he and his wife
were open at one point. And I shut him down and don't plan to ever see or speak to him again. The
last time I saw him must have been when I was a teenager. As I said, his sister and I were
best friends. I can't imagine I actually took my top off when he was around. I could see me
maybe having done it on a dare back then, but with him around? I did used to have a crush on
the guy, but now "EWW!!"
So, thoughts? I even thought briefly of not telling my husband. I mean, I shut him down and
was pretty proud of how I handled it. But after coming from this:
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/genera...icking-up-pieces-after-om-suicide-threat.html
I feel it's important that my husband and I are open and honest, even about stuff like this that may pop up once in awhile.
which I thought was bizarre, but I answered and left it alone and then I see a text from him this morning
saying that I was up late. I'm like Yeah, so?
Then he says he's contacted me for his own perverse reasons and I say "Okaay?"
He says, "Just delete this so you're safe on your end and please don't say anything
to "****" and "Jane" (Brother and sis-in-law) and I'll leave you alone.
I say I haven't done anything wrong so no need to delete anything.
He says, "Yet"
He says, "I heard something that intrigued me and I have seen your tits a long time ago. I was
wondering what they look like now and your little ***** as well. You may still back away"
I say, "I don't know where you would have seen them. But I'm definitely not interested. You're
starting down a dangerous road. You should talk to your wife and let her know you're unhappy
and try to work on your marriage instead of starting something with someone else.
He says, "LOL, when you and (ex-boyfriend) were dating you took your top off in the pool.
Anyhow, no worries, my wife knows who I am very well."
I say, "If you have an open marriage, then that's all well and good but I'm still not interested.
He says that "****" and "Jane" don't know about the open marriage. I tell him I heard
about it from them. (I should have shut it down here or much earlier.)
He says, "Just heard you like to "insert sexual thing" and wondered how open you were. And that you
never had an issue with playing. Point is taken ma'am. So I'll shh and back away."
I said, pretty much every woman on the planet likes to "insert sexual thing", doesn't make me
special. Bye Sherlock.
And then I said "Obviously you have some information I'm not comfortable with you having.
No hard feelings. And then I blocked him on face book.
My plan is to let my husband know tonight and then to call his wife in a few days to make sure
their marriage is still open. I had heard from my sister-in-law that it was closed, but this
was a few years ago. Maybe it never actually closed. Who knows?
He obviously doesn't want my sister-in-law to know that her brother is hitting up her former
best friend. I'm not sure if I should tell her or not. They were aware that he and his wife
were open at one point. And I shut him down and don't plan to ever see or speak to him again. The
last time I saw him must have been when I was a teenager. As I said, his sister and I were
best friends. I can't imagine I actually took my top off when he was around. I could see me
maybe having done it on a dare back then, but with him around? I did used to have a crush on
the guy, but now "EWW!!"
So, thoughts? I even thought briefly of not telling my husband. I mean, I shut him down and
was pretty proud of how I handled it. But after coming from this:
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/genera...icking-up-pieces-after-om-suicide-threat.html
I feel it's important that my husband and I are open and honest, even about stuff like this that may pop up once in awhile.