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Husband didn't want to let me go and we both convinced myself that being with him was best. Security was the primary reason for marriage. To be with someone for the rest of my life..to be taken care of. For most of our relationship, it was about him loving me. Taking care of me during my hard times. It was hard to love him when I found it hard to love myself.
Interesting how it is so difficult to love your husband because "You don`t love yourself" but you have feelings for this other man even though I assume you still "Don`t love yourself"
Well, I am still uncertain of this feeling for this man. But, I just love that he loves what I love! It's an amazing feeling. And, this man even told me he wishes he had met me before his wife.
Divorce is rampant in my family and my parents divorced when i was 6. Still are single. I struggle with wanting to break that cycle and yet I also don't want to stay in marriage that doesnt satisfy.
Divorce is rampant in my family and my parents divorced when i was 6. Still are single. I struggle with wanting to break that cycle and yet I also don't want to stay in marriage that doesnt satisfy.
Then divorce your husband but even that doesn`t help you with your new beau as he belongs to another.
Well, I just met this man. I am attracted to him and I want him.But, he has children and a wife. So, that is what makes it all so difficult.
Well, anything can happen. I have my fantasies for sure. But, I dont want to do something I will later regret. Nor he.
I think I know what I want to do but I am scared to do it. You know?
How well do you know this man?
I mean, he`s married and has kids and seems willing to take another woman.
I just know I couldn`t do that to my kids or my wife.
But I couldn`t bear what it would do to my daughter and I truly couldn`t bear how I would look in her eyes.
It would destroy her idea of what her father is.
Your position is impossible without utterly destroying many lives.
Have you tried working your troubles out with your husband?
Well, I dont know how willing he is. But, he -like i--find it appealing that we share similar passions. We both dont have that in our spouse.
How can I work out something like unshared passions? Is this something that is essential in a very happy marriage? Part of me feels like I should just deal with it and be happy with what I have. Yet, I am an idealist.
I don't know, man. Marriage is so messed up now-a-days...who really knows?
In my opinion though, it's kind of rotten to do that to his wife and kids. It messes everyone's life up to break up a family like that. Marriage is no longer about commitment anymore...it's about staying with someone til something better comes along, and to heII if there is a family involved! Maybe this is the true test of marriage? If you can sustain the marriage even when temptation is right in front of you? But the first whif of temptation and there you are ready to end two marriages, two families (Man and wife = a family, kids or no). Hurt what sounds like a good husband. Hurt this other guy's wife and kids. Break up families.
You are right. It is selfish and you recognize it, otherwise you wouldn't be on here talking about it.
There most definately is better and it may be that the grass can be pretty damn green where you are right now if you put a little work into it.
If it doesn`t work out end it with some dignity and respect for your husband.
Divorce him and then look for something better.
I agree with that saying. Yet, I feel like we are more different, especially now that I am not depressed, and he and I dont have that shared interests...man, I never thought that would be so important.
Well, I dont know how willing he is. But, he -like i--find it appealing that we share similar passions. We both dont have that in our spouse.
How can I work out something like unshared passions? Is this something that is essential in a very happy marriage? Part of me feels like I should just deal with it and be happy with what I have. Yet, I am an idealist.
Why did you marry your husband?
Stop...really think about it and remember when you met him the things you did the things you shared.
There must have been something, something you`ve apparently lost along the way.
It`s really not that hard to get it back if two people are willing.
I don't know, man. Marriage is so messed up now-a-days...who really knows?
In my opinion though, it's kind of rotten to do that to his wife and kids. It messes everyone's life up to break up a family like that. Marriage is no longer about commitment anymore...it's about staying with someone til something better comes along, and to heII if there is a family involved! Maybe this is the true test of marriage? If you can sustain the marriage even when temptation is right in front of you? But the first whif of temptation and there you are ready to end two marriages, two families (Man and wife = a family, kids or no). Hurt what sounds like a good husband. Hurt this other guy's wife and kids. Break up families.
You are right. It is selfish and you recognize it, otherwise you wouldn't be on here talking about it.
I dont think I would do that. But, the reason I mentioned this man was to bring up the fact that I am now aware of this passion. And I want that in my marriage. And, part of me wishes I would have waited to get married. I need to think about some things and what I want from myself, hubby and life.
Too little shared interests 
I need to think about some things and what I want from myself, hubby and life.
