Re: Deployed Wife & we fight every day.
First of all thank you for your service. I'm sorry for hear about your situation but I firmly believe military familes are a special rare breed. The sacrifice that you guys do for your country can be hard on family. Sounds like you H is insecure and/or having a hard time coping with your deployments. Having said this, some people like your husband seem to need constant contact with their partner as a way of coping with their anxieties of abandoment. Question though, did you tell him your career plans before marriage AND did he completely understand the implications of having a spouse with a military career that could be deployed for months at a time?
If he did know this before the marriage then its not fair for him to use childish passive aggresive tactics to keep you in line. Its time you had a serious conversation with your husband and establish clear boundries and expectations. You are who you are and he needs to accept this. THIS makes you happy. If he ends up making you quit because of his behavior trust me you will end up resenting or even hating him.
Finally, do not give up your dreams. I have known plenty of folks who put in their 20 or more and had a great pension and great stories to tell.
I feel sorry for those with depression, mental illness, hangnails, bad hair, bad childhood memories, etc. I feel sorry for the visually impaired but that doesn't mean I want a blind person flying my airplane and my compassion won't make the flight any safer.