I've been divorced about a year, so there are a lot of things i haven't thought about for a long time and need help understanding.
I'm puzzled as to how some people seem to have unlimited dating appeal. they can just move from one relationship to another at will. My x wife, for example, dated a guy for a while who everyone said was a "ladies man." He would date a while and then dump the woman and move on to somebody else. He did that with my x. The weird part is that I don't see the appeal. His looks aren't terrible, but no Brad Pitt, and overall he just doesn't appear to be anything extra. My daughter thought he was the biggest joke ever. She would even refuse to have her friends over when he was around because she said he acted embarrassingly stupid. Yet, he dates very attractive women. We live in a small town where everybody knows everybody; it's not like he pulls the same trick among strangers. So, everybody knows he's a jerk, so i can't figure out what it is that women just can't resist about him.
On the other hand, there are people who stay single all their lives. I had never thought much about it, but I work with several people, both male and female, who are single. They are in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. They are attractive, no apparent weird habits, and financially stable, but I don't think they even date. One of the women is very attractive. It looks like she would be getting asked out all the time, but apparently not. Do people who like being single just put off a vibe that says, "don't bother asking."
I'm puzzled as to how some people seem to have unlimited dating appeal. they can just move from one relationship to another at will. My x wife, for example, dated a guy for a while who everyone said was a "ladies man." He would date a while and then dump the woman and move on to somebody else. He did that with my x. The weird part is that I don't see the appeal. His looks aren't terrible, but no Brad Pitt, and overall he just doesn't appear to be anything extra. My daughter thought he was the biggest joke ever. She would even refuse to have her friends over when he was around because she said he acted embarrassingly stupid. Yet, he dates very attractive women. We live in a small town where everybody knows everybody; it's not like he pulls the same trick among strangers. So, everybody knows he's a jerk, so i can't figure out what it is that women just can't resist about him.
On the other hand, there are people who stay single all their lives. I had never thought much about it, but I work with several people, both male and female, who are single. They are in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. They are attractive, no apparent weird habits, and financially stable, but I don't think they even date. One of the women is very attractive. It looks like she would be getting asked out all the time, but apparently not. Do people who like being single just put off a vibe that says, "don't bother asking."