i am confused about how to feel in my situation. heres my story i hope to get advice on. i appreciate everyones time and thoughts! ok.....
my husband contacted some girl he knew from high school. he says saw her on fb and emailed her, giving her his cell number so they can catch up. i found this out from going through his gmail trash. to clarify: (i had a bad gut feeling that was always nagging me so i snooped)
i did tell him i saw the email and he said they only talk on rare occassions. i said ok if thats all it is but my gut feeling never went away so for weeks i asked him if he was talking to her much and he said no. well just last week i decided to go through his phone and saw that he had her number saved under a guys name and he made some calls to her while he was at work (he never calls me from work) i told him i knew and he said he was bored and decided to call her just to talk and admitted they talk weekly.
days later this girl texts him at 1am and i make him let me see it. she wanted to know if he was up, wants to talk. i have a fit and so he ignores the text and leaves me his phone the next morning to prove nothing is going on.
i decide to text her, pretending to be my husband and i say "you got me in trouble with my wife" her reply was "wife? i had no idea you were married. good thing those pics didnt go through. i then called her from my phone and told her who i was. she denies that anything is going on, but that he use to like her back in the day but they never dated, and that he asked to see racey pics of her.
that day i told my husband i knew everything and i was leaving him. he continued with the same lies, so as i was about to walk out the door he finally admitted to saying yes to seeing her pics. (says she asked him if he would like to see them) he said he was never into her and did tell her he was married from the beginning.
my husband cries almost every night says hes sorry, begs me not to leave and that itll never happen again and has been super loving and attenative to me and our 1 mo old baby.
i am very confused about who to believe. any ideas about what i should do? would this be considered cheating? he claims it was only friendship and it only crossed the line with the pics. (she lives out of state so it wasnt physical) he contacted a marriage counselor but we cant go until they have openings so im on here with my issue.
my heart is pulling me in two directions. any advice would be of much help!
my husband contacted some girl he knew from high school. he says saw her on fb and emailed her, giving her his cell number so they can catch up. i found this out from going through his gmail trash. to clarify: (i had a bad gut feeling that was always nagging me so i snooped)
i did tell him i saw the email and he said they only talk on rare occassions. i said ok if thats all it is but my gut feeling never went away so for weeks i asked him if he was talking to her much and he said no. well just last week i decided to go through his phone and saw that he had her number saved under a guys name and he made some calls to her while he was at work (he never calls me from work) i told him i knew and he said he was bored and decided to call her just to talk and admitted they talk weekly.
days later this girl texts him at 1am and i make him let me see it. she wanted to know if he was up, wants to talk. i have a fit and so he ignores the text and leaves me his phone the next morning to prove nothing is going on.
i decide to text her, pretending to be my husband and i say "you got me in trouble with my wife" her reply was "wife? i had no idea you were married. good thing those pics didnt go through. i then called her from my phone and told her who i was. she denies that anything is going on, but that he use to like her back in the day but they never dated, and that he asked to see racey pics of her.
that day i told my husband i knew everything and i was leaving him. he continued with the same lies, so as i was about to walk out the door he finally admitted to saying yes to seeing her pics. (says she asked him if he would like to see them) he said he was never into her and did tell her he was married from the beginning.
my husband cries almost every night says hes sorry, begs me not to leave and that itll never happen again and has been super loving and attenative to me and our 1 mo old baby.
i am very confused about who to believe. any ideas about what i should do? would this be considered cheating? he claims it was only friendship and it only crossed the line with the pics. (she lives out of state so it wasnt physical) he contacted a marriage counselor but we cant go until they have openings so im on here with my issue.
my heart is pulling me in two directions. any advice would be of much help!