I'm sure everyone argues about the housework but I'm really struggling. This is the situation, I'm hoping someone has some advice for us (or me!):
My partner works 5 days and I work 2 days. We have 2 children (5 & 1), the eldest is his step-daughter. I am studying a full-time physics degree course through the OU. We share a 3 bed house in the city, I drive my partner hasn't learnt yet so can't drive. My husband only earns a little more than me because I'm on a much higher salary.
The only things my husband does at the momentare clean the litter tray, clean out the guinea pigs, empty the bins and sort and put out recycling. I do everything else including phone calls, appointments, keeping track of school things, driving, all other hosuework etc etc.
Unfortunately he rarely does the jobs he already has when the need doing so I end up having to do half myself or the house isn't even safe for the kids and certainly isn't fit to live in. I am a little lazy myself but have been trying very hard over the past year to stay on top of everything in the house while he just appears to be doing less than before.
If I need anything doing I have to ask every time, he won't just do what needs doing and even then he "forgets" or makes up some other excuse. e.g. He wasn't well and had to look after the baby while I went away for 1 night. I asked him to do 3 jobs: washing up, pair the socks and clean the guinea pigs. He did the washing up but left the cutlery. I wasn't specific enough on what basket the socks were in and he didn't have time to do the guinea pigs because his friend came over.
Add to this we're just struggling o pay off wedding, honeymoon and other debts. He is due a refund of tax from 07/08 and his first statement was "that money is mine, I earned it" then he got pissy when I said it was better to pay the debts off than just blow it.
I just don't know what to do I've resorted to nagging which I hate and is getting me nowhere. I read somewhere I'm not showing I love him enough... seriously more housework will be done if I tell him everything is fine and have sex instead of washing up??? I very much doubt it.
Can anyone offer me any advice, I'm at the end of my teher and I'm going to end up failing a module or quitting work (which we can't afford to do). Help!!!