Opinions needed - is somebody reading too much into this message?
I wanted to get some help here. I apologize for the ambiguity, but I am trying to keep this as neutral as possible!
My spouse and I have had relationship issues which we are in counseling for. One of the issues is one of us believes their parent-in-law is regularly making underhanded, petty, somewhat insulting comments in e-mails. The other believes their parent has no negative intentions and that the spouse is simply looking for things to find fault with in the e-mails.
We wanted to get some advice from strangers, so we can know what to work on - whether one of us is completely blind as to their parent's underhanded insulting tone or the other is over-reading into otherwise neutral words.
The story is that after out cats were boarded in the kennel and shortly after they came home, they got sick with what appeared to be a very bad cold. After a few days when they did not get better, one of us took the cats to the vets. Both of us have a medical background and had our own opinion on whether or not they should have gone sooner.
One of us feels this e-mail contains a few petty, underhanded comments, and the other of us believes it is just an innocent message our spouse is reading into. The names of all involved have been modified, but it is otherwise copied and pasted word for word.
Can anybody provide their opinions on the e-mail below (from a parent-in-law)? This is not a "one of us is right, the other is wrong issue," but rather to help us determine which one of us needs to address the issue. This has been discussed in counseling somewhat, but we really would like completely neutral unbiased opinions. Thank you in advance!
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What a shame that Maxwell and Jingles became ill.
Bryan told me that Maxwell especially had been sick.
Are they doing better? I am so glad you took them in to be checked before it got any worse!
I hope the shot helped Maxwell and he is feeling better.,