01-28-2012, 05:19 PM
Join Date: Aug 2011
| | Re: Guilt
Think about how you would feel if you were on the receiving end. If someone breaks up with you, you want them to do it in a way that honors the good things you shared, and just regrets that it is the end of a path, but also acknowledges clearly that it is one, right?
He isn't going to be happy if you're with him just out of obligation. But, if you don't tell him soon, you're just going to cause him more pain because he can't move on.
Don't pick on everything that's wrong with him and don't trash his self worth and don't pick a fight so you can push him away in anger. It might feel easier, but that's cruel.
Just explain to him that you loved him, but you don't feel that way about him anymore, that you do still care about him, but this relationship is over for you. Tell him that you believe he will find someone who can give him what you can't.
Basically, just be honest and be kind. Think about how you'd like someone to tell you. Or, if you had a son and his wife was divorcing him, how would you want her to tell him? And, you can write it out and practice a few times before you talk to him, so you know what to you want to say. I agree with the other poster here who said you should do this at his house and not go to dinner with him to give him false hopes.
Spare him pain, but be clear and firm and honest.