FrenchFry

I'm one of those women who have a love/hate relationship with V-day! I send out cheesy elementary school cards to all my friends with sweetheart candy but I started that tradition when I was single and worked in the restaraunt industry where valentines day is just a little less terrible than Mother's Day.

I'm still not a huge fan- I dislike dead cut roses/cut flowers of any sort, I'm anti-diamond and lose all jewelery I've ever had so I keep it cheap. I have chocolate almost every day in some form, going out to dinner is way too much hassle, etc. What I dislike most though is that it is all so "GIVE ME STUFF (MALE SIGNIFICANT OTHER) OR YOU SUCK" so when my husband and I got serious, we talked about VD being actually couple centered for us and kinda going accordingly.

I've gotten a little more romantic about the day, but as far as romancing him, I'm stuck! I ordered myself some lingerie I know he'll enjoy, but I'm at a loss for what else to do for him!

So I guess my question is: What are you guys doing for Valentine's day? I really appreciate all answers, eveb traditional ones but if you are doing something unique, I might copy you.
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bubbly girl

Ugh. That's what I'll be doing on Valentine's Day...serving meals to all the couples going out to eat. I've already been told I'll probably be working a double because it's such a busy day at the restaurant.

I hope you get some good idea's and enjoy Valentine's Day.

LovesHerMan

I've gotten a little more romantic about the day, but as far as romancing him, I'm stuck! I ordered myself some lingerie I know he'll enjoy, but I'm at a loss for what else to do for him!


I'll bet he will be thrilled with this! My husband sends me flowers at work. There is something wonderful about having your co-workers tell you that your husband is a keeper.

We cook a special meal at home together. After that, it is candles, our favorite music, and rocking each other's world. The best way to celebrate is to tell each other why you would marry them all over again.

ScaredandUnsure

I'm making my fiancee a romantic dinner with red wine, chocolate covered cherries, a card and probably something I know he'll like. Movie at home of his choice. I don't know, I've been trying to think of something romantic to do with him that doesn't involve waiting in lines or dealing with annoying crowds.

This is me

My WW told me she wanted a divorce last year on Valentines weekend. A year later and 4 months of seperation, we are still legally married and she told me last week she is afraid she will love me forever. Also that she is afraid she will never find anyone who will love her like I have.

What to do? A week before she told me she wanted to divorce for the third and I thought final time. Now she has me hanging again with the hopes we can still work this out.

I know what my gut is telling me.

Mavash.

My husband is a gift guy and I'm frugal. What a combo huh?

So he buys flowers, takes me out to dinner or something sweet and I gush and pretend to love it. This has gotten easier over the years but still it seems like such a waste of money to me.

I'm so not into Hallmark type holidays.

ScaredandUnsure

Yeah, I'm a giver. I loooove to give gifts, cards, whatever. I don't like spending money on myself when I don't have to. But I absolutely love buying things for the people I love, even if it's small and inexpensive, if I find something I think they'd like, I'm all over it like white on rice. But I'd rather do things more on the cheap side, and hang out at home lol.

heartsbeating

Over the years we decided to keep it simple. I wouldn't say we "celebrate" VD. We do exchange a card/love note each year though. This is always lovely. Usually they aren't Valentine's cards, but other just romantic or sexy/fun cards.

Ideas for you: write a message in the bathroom mirror for him to see when steam from the shower arises. Share a bath together. Make him a mix-tape (I love doing this, I know it sounds juvenile, but who cares! Who doesn't like receiving mix-tapes?!), breakfast in bed. Even better would be sexy breakfast in bed. Home-made banner "Will You Be Mine?" hung up in the house etc.

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FrenchFry

It's so funny, this morning at 6:30 while my toddler was bouncing on us as we groaned in bed my husband said to me "You know, I love being a dad, I wouldn't give up this feeling for the world, but MAN do I miss morning sex!" Me too! I also miss sexy breakfast in bed!

I love the ideas though! Dinner in undies is a great one, I also love the banner idea, I have a friend who has a Cricut I could borrow. I wish I could make an actual mixed media for him...maybe a playlist on his ipod lol.
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heartsbeating

Yep! Easy to upload it to the ipod. I tend to go a bit more old school, not cassette tapes but a cd, then sneak it into the car for him with a note attached. But really, putting a playlist onto the ipod is more practical these days and who doesn't enjoy listening to music? Especially if it's music he loves, or you find music you think he'll enjoy, or music that tells "your story". Sorry, I'm big on mix-tapes lol.

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heartsbeating

Sounds like your husband would love a sexy treat for Valentine's!

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WadeWilson

Nothing... Well not nothing exactly... Outside of religion, I'm one of those everyother holiday is a "Hallmark Holidays" but, thankfully my wife don't care for the mushiness that's valintines day... But, if we do anything it will be watching movie marathons on our well deserved new tv...

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Kurosity

We don't celebrate VD because I hate how silly it gets and so from the start of our relationship told my H that we have all year to celebrate our love for each other. So come VD it is about our kids getting cards and small thing of treats from us and then on to a regular old day.

On my H's last birthday I started the day off with breakfast, put his favorite treat in his car and left him "I want you" ummm hinting, some reminding him of other wonderful nights we had together, notes every where. In the glove box, in his lunch, in the trunk, even one taped to his tooth brush. All day what was coming at the end of the day was on his mind.
I even set a reminder in his phone to go off right when he would leave work. All day long he anticipated our evening. Then it was his favorit meal for dinner and the night went as he had been teased that it would all day. It was kind of fun. You did buy something hot to wear for him so this might work for you.

Dr. Rockstar

On Valentine's Day my wife and I like to rent out our children to other couples thinking of starting families.

It's a growth industry.

Riverside MFT

Valentine's Day is one of my wife's favorite holidays (not because of me. I've had my fair share of mess ups.) She feels it is a time to celebrate all of her relationships, and not just our relationship. She will make cards for her family members, and friends, and share what she loves about that person. Before meeting her, I felt like Valentine's Day was simply an obligatory holiday. Since being married, I am also really starting to like VD.

Suggestions: make her a card, make her dinner, plan out a date. Whatever you do, put some time and effort into it. Don't just go out and buy flowers and chocolates. If you are giving flowers, why not give flowers that you plant together. Let her know that they are her valentine's day flowers for next year. Instead of buying her chocolate, make your own.

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