02-08-2012, 03:39 PM
Join Date: May 2011
| | Re: High School sweathearts 19 years need help
Originally Posted by HeartbrokeninGA
I'm damed if I do, and damed if I dont. IF she is being honest and I push too hard it can screw up any potential reconiliation. If she is being dishonest and cheating then I look like an idiot.
You got this wrong man. She earned the suspicion, every doubt you have, every suspicion - she put them there. She earned them and now has to pay the price until those thoughts are not there any more. If you push and she gets mad there never was any real reconciliation anyway.
Only if she's genuinely remorseful, takes ownership of what she's done, and accepts accountability can you have true reconciliation.
You're in a fix it or break it position. There is no middle ground unless you want to live in limbo the rest of your life. If the process of fixing it kills it, then you have your answer. Do not retreat from what she must do. Do not settle. Do not give her a free pass for her feelings. She did this - she must undo it.