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Old 02-15-2012, 12:55 PM   #1 (permalink)
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My husband (late 20s) was diagnosed with low testosterone. He is doing more tests and dr talked about possible solutions to this. We will find out what is going on for sure next week.

For now he is worried that when/if he does get on a treatment it will change his personality. Does anyone have any experience with this? I know his sex drive will increase, but I dont really care about that right now. What are the advantages and disadvantages of low t treatments? Anything we should worry about or pay speacial attention to? Anything we should ask the dr?

I would apreciate help from people that have dealt/are dealing with this issue.
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Old 02-15-2012, 12:58 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I think the thread I posted in your other thread also talked about the side effects of low-T. Presumably, when that issue is fixed, those side effects will go away.

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Old 02-15-2012, 01:00 PM   #3 (permalink)
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My husband (late 20s) was diagnosed with low testosterone. He is doing more tests and dr talked about possible solutions to this. We will find out what is going on for sure next week.

For now he is worried that when/if he does get on a treatment it will change his personality. Does anyone have any experience with this? I know his sex drive will increase, but I dont really care about that right now. What are the advantages and disadvantages of low t treatments? Anything we should worry about or pay speacial attention to? Anything we should ask the dr?

I would apreciate help from people that have dealt/are dealing with this issue.
Thank you.
20's is kinda of young to have low T, although apparently its possible. Does he drink, have high blood pressure, high stressed job, or have bad eating habits? That could be some of the cause.

Anyway, are you asking if once he is on meds for low T will the meds change his personality/behavior? Not sure about that, but with any medications there could be side effects.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:13 PM   #4 (permalink)
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20's is kinda of young to have low T, although apparently its possible. Does he drink, have high blood pressure, high stressed job, or have bad eating habits? That could be some of the cause.

Anyway, are you asking if once he is on meds for low T will the meds change his personality/behavior? Not sure about that, but with any medications there could be side effects.
Yes that's what I'm asking. I want to see if there are any people that can tell me about their personal experiences or wives that have husbands dealing with that. I can google this and find info, but I feel like I would benefit more from people sharing their personal experiences with me.

Yes it is young. He is 29. He doesn't drink (even when we go out on the weekend he will have 1 maybe 2 beers and that's it. We also have 1 glass of red wine every night together). He is at a pretty healthy weight (190lbs 6'2"). we try to eat healthy (homemade meals every day trying to be as healthy as possible, lots of veggies etc). He does have a high stressed job and was told he had high blood pressure last time he had his physical. He is trying to excercise regularly, but doesn't always have the drive to do so.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:18 PM   #5 (permalink)
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i was diagnosed low in my late 20s
i wouldn't say it changes the personality, for me it just brought back my personality to where it was.
moods stabled out, i was able to think clearly again, and my wife says i'm much easier to be around lol.

ask about different options for administering the treatment.
personally, i can't stand the gel and went to injections.
Can I ask how old u are now? How long did u do the treatment for?
Do u have kids?
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:19 PM   #6 (permalink)
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My H takes testosterone injections for low T. No major personality changes have happened, but he does seem happier/calmer because he is a lot less tired and fatigued. He says he feels a lot better in many ways - and he's still not even at the level the doctor would prefer him to be at.

The only side effect we have noticed so far is that he does seem to be getting a bit hairier - on his chest/belly/etc.

Being that your H is only 29, he should be seeing a specialist - I don't know if that would be a urologist or an endocrinologist - because testosterone replacement therapy can impact fertility, I believe. I don't know if you have kids or want kids or are done with kids, but that might be one issue that you should consider exploring with his doctors some more.

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Old 02-15-2012, 01:26 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Insomnia messes with T as well. And diets without any/much meat. Treatment for T can make a guy feel more "masculine", though it may also increase aggression. You can somewhat increase T by doing weights, eating meat, winning competitive events, being in charge in relationships/work, and taking certain supplements. The main supplements that I have personally seen demonstrate any success in raising T are DHEA and tribulus terrestris. Other supplements for increasing sex drive include acetyl-l-carnitine, zinc, and maca.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:30 PM   #8 (permalink)
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My H takes testosterone injections for low T. No major personality changes have happened, but he does seem happier/calmer because he is a lot less tired and fatigued. He says he feels a lot better in many ways - and he's still not even at the level the doctor would prefer him to be at.

The only side effect we have noticed so far is that he does seem to be getting a bit hairier - on his chest/belly/etc.

Being that your H is only 29, he should be seeing a specialist - I don't know if that would be a urologist or an endocrinologist - because testosterone replacement therapy can impact fertility, I believe. I don't know if you have kids or want kids or are done with kids, but that might be one issue that you should consider exploring with his doctors some more.

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Thank you for your reply.
He is seeing a specialist who is also consulting another specialist friend of his. I believe he is an endocrinologist.
We don't have any kids, but they are definitely in our near future plans. The fertility issue worries me a lot. He wants me to go with him to his appts with the doctors now and I am more than happy to do that. He seemed devastated when I told him that I read some stuff about possible fertility problems.
The hairy side effect doesn't concern me at all. He is Italian and he is pretty hairy, but not hairy enough for a mediteranean man so him getting a more hairy chest will be more of a turn on to me (lol i hope that doesn't sound weird).

What numbers are we talking about? My husband is in the mid 200s.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:39 PM   #9 (permalink)
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One thing I haven't seen discussed in many of these threads is prolactinomas (tumor by the pituitary gland). It was covered in House recently, but the reason I'm familiar with them is that my GF has one. And low-T is one of the symptoms for men, with corresponding drop in libido.

In my GF case, if it's caused a reduction in her libido, I'm in big trouble...

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Old 02-15-2012, 01:45 PM   #10 (permalink)
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hmmm the specialist ordered an MRI of the pituitary gland. That is the next test he has to do.
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That's how they caught her tumor, and how they monitor it. So it sounds like that should be covered.

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Old 02-15-2012, 02:03 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Bottom line, the most likely changes will only be for the positive.

Many of the negative side effects people link with testosterone or steroid use, only manifest when very, very, high doses are being used.

I'm 46. Have an entire thread on this subject if you have not already seen it. Take a look, and suggest that your husband take a look as well.

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Old 02-15-2012, 04:02 PM   #13 (permalink)
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Thank you for your reply.
He is seeing a specialist who is also consulting another specialist friend of his. I believe he is an endocrinologist.
We don't have any kids, but they are definitely in our near future plans. The fertility issue worries me a lot. He wants me to go with him to his appts with the doctors now and I am more than happy to do that. He seemed devastated when I told him that I read some stuff about possible fertility problems.
The hairy side effect doesn't concern me at all. He is Italian and he is pretty hairy, but not hairy enough for a mediteranean man so him getting a more hairy chest will be more of a turn on to me (lol i hope that doesn't sound weird).

What numbers are we talking about? My husband is in the mid 200s.
My H's numbers were lower than your H's. But he is also almost 50, not 29. My H's normal level should be about 500 - 600 for a man his age - his last was around 430 with his current dose. He gets a higher dose the next time he gets an injection.

My H has primary hypogonadism - he had a medical condition that caused testicular atrophy, so his low T is primarily a result of not having his 'boys' both working properly. It was just a slow decline for him and he just thought he was aging (and while we knew about the medical issues with one of his testicles, we didn't realize it would/could impact his T levels), but decided to talk to the doc about his symptoms and convince the doctor to test him (I had to convince my H first, though, to even bring it up - and it was primarily because of posts I had seen on here about low T).

Since your H is so young, it's good they are exploring what may be causing his low levels.

We are done having kids, so fertility was not a factor. But I do know that hormone replacement causes your body (e.g., your pituitary/hypothalamus in your brain) to sense more hormone in your body and therefore not stimulate your body to make any more - and that can have a potential impact on a man's fertility. I think if you are concerned about his fertility, you should simply bring it up with his doctors - and try and not worry too much about it - take one step at a time and try and not fret about things you don't know for sure - he could have completely adequate fertility for all you know.

I will be thinking about you and your H in the days ahead and hoping and praying for the best for both of you.

Best wishes.
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Old 02-16-2012, 11:03 AM   #14 (permalink)
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What do u mean you became abusive of it? Your advice is VERY valuable to me given that you started doing this at the same age as my husband will start. Most cases I read about these kinds of problems are of older men so I really care about what your experience with this whole issue is.

My husband is a very calm person in general WITH OTHER PEOPLE! I happen to be the person he takes his frusteration out on and when that happens it's not very nice (it doesn't happen often). I have talked with his mom and she said that he has always been very quiet and a nice kid, BUT he would throw temper tantrums at her when nobody was around. He is worried that the testosterone treatment might make him aggressive or violent.
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Testosterone doesn't make you lose control ...

If anything getting the treatment should make him more aware of his sh!tty behavior in the first place, and make a conscious decision to change it.

I don't know of anyone, and I've talked to lots of folks at this point, where therapeutic levels of administered T, caused rages or violence.

If anything, it had a much more mood-leveling effect and they were HAPPIER, not angrier.
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