Re: Starting a family
Oh dear, this sounds familiar.
Unfortunately in my relationship I pulled the bait-n-switch. I thought prior to marriage that I would have children, and years later discovered the more I thought about it the less I desired them.
In your husband's case it could be many things. Has he talked about why he's not interested in children? It could be his upbringing, or genetic worries? Since you say you have very high stress careers, maybe that is influencing his decision, and how he views everything. He may not see being able to spend time with kids or want any extra responsibilities right now. This really needs to be dealt with. You have to know whether he's just not very interested in children because of changeable circumstances, or if he never wants children.
If it's the latter, I'm sorry.