MrK

You admitted you are new to this forum. I can tell. If you read a little, you will find A LOT of women that fall out of love with their husbands. Read up. Post. Start a support group. And when you are done, maybe YOU will be that change we all want to see in the world. That group of women that stand up on the rooftops and scream DO NOT MARRY HIM!!! You WILL fall out of love".

For you, he's boring and not funny. Me, I've got a good sense of humor and her friends love me. I like sex and I'm not bad at it. So what is it from my wife? I was an emotional abuser. I would say some mean things and sometimes she would be afraid to come home. Afraid of ME? I've never hit another human being in my life. She knew me for 5 years before we married. She knew what she was getting.

And that STUPID Catholic retreat we went on. All of those insane "group hugs" and "be each other's best friends" garbage. Bullcrap. Show some pictures of 50 year old balding fat guys while playing an audio of farting. Then ask, "ladies, are you REALLY thinking this through"?

I don't care about you. I know it's not your fault. The women before you didn't prepare you for this. But leave the marriage. For HIM. You can both start over and be happy. You're young. Or, you can stay, have kids, then at 50 look back at what could have been. My wife and I are MISERABLE in our loveless, sexless marriage. All because she was too chicken-s.h.i.t to leave me 15 years ago when she fell out of love (that's right, they don't tell us men it's happening. fun, right?).

You've got to be INSANE to get married. Get out before there are kids locking you into a lifetime sentence with this man.

And I'm anything but a bigot, but stay FAR AWAY from cross-cultural marriages in the future also. That was your first mistake.

So go ahead. Listen to all of the "stick with it" post's you'll get from the ladies. But if you want to be happy, listen to the men who were on the other side of this and are now miserable. Get out. For BOTH of you.

Good luck.

suzy23

Thanks for your reply. But we aren't young. I'm 49, he's 66. He was widowed before I met him. I have never been married before. Our relationship has been under extreme stress due to his mentally ill drug addicted son, which has caused unbelievable stress levels. I actually moved out of the house because it affected my health, but we still see each other nightly and sleep together. But i won't move back in and we actually thought there was nothing wrong between us, but now that I've moved out i think we are both re-evaluating everything and what we really want. there are other stresses on us much larger than many other couples, so I think sometimes circumstances like that can affect how you relate to each other. I lived with an emotional abuser years ago and find aggression from others difficult to deal with and be around, but I also had physical abusive relationships, which of course I left when I had the courage. It's taken a lot of courage for me to move into my own house, but you are right, people shouldn't procrastinate, but marriage is worth exploring the possibilities that you can save it. There are always faults on both sides of a marriage and people deal with things differently. You sound angry for what happened to you, but anger will stop you enjoying the rest of your life. let it go and move on. I apologise if I am wrong. I wish you well and happiness.

Needpeace

suzy23, I think you will find MrK is not replying to you, this is not your thread it is Segment of Life For Gigi's thread.
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