05-29-2012, 06:48 AM
Join Date: Sep 2010
| | Re: Feeling trapped + lonely in my marriage
You admitted you are new to this forum. I can tell. If you read a little, you will find A LOT of women that fall out of love with their husbands. Read up. Post. Start a support group. And when you are done, maybe YOU will be that change we all want to see in the world. That group of women that stand up on the rooftops and scream DO NOT MARRY HIM!!! You WILL fall out of love".
For you, he's boring and not funny. Me, I've got a good sense of humor and her friends love me. I like sex and I'm not bad at it. So what is it from my wife? I was an emotional abuser. I would say some mean things and sometimes she would be afraid to come home. Afraid of ME? I've never hit another human being in my life. She knew me for 5 years before we married. She knew what she was getting.
And that STUPID Catholic retreat we went on. All of those insane "group hugs" and "be each other's best friends" garbage. Bullcrap. Show some pictures of 50 year old balding fat guys while playing an audio of farting. Then ask, "ladies, are you REALLY thinking this through"?
I don't care about you. I know it's not your fault. The women before you didn't prepare you for this. But leave the marriage. For HIM. You can both start over and be happy. You're young. Or, you can stay, have kids, then at 50 look back at what could have been. My wife and I are MISERABLE in our loveless, sexless marriage. All because she was too chicken-s.h.i.t to leave me 15 years ago when she fell out of love (that's right, they don't tell us men it's happening. fun, right?).
You've got to be INSANE to get married. Get out before there are kids locking you into a lifetime sentence with this man.
And I'm anything but a bigot, but stay FAR AWAY from cross-cultural marriages in the future also. That was your first mistake.
So go ahead. Listen to all of the "stick with it" post's you'll get from the ladies. But if you want to be happy, listen to the men who were on the other side of this and are now miserable. Get out. For BOTH of you.