Enchantment

I don't know - I read this and think that maybe it's more than about cooking.

It seems like it's more about appreciation.

Hoggie, you work some really long hours, and I'm sure that you would likely like your wife to show that she cares about the sacrifice you make and that she cares about you by seeing that you have something nice to eat when you come home. If that's true, have you ever articulated that to her?

And Mrs. Hoggie - she likely wants appreciation too. Maybe she doesn't really like the hours that you work, since she has to manage all mealtimes and kids on her own, and she may have to cook two meals - one for the kids earlier, one for you later.

So....what to do?

Well, have you discussed this with her? What are her complaints about it?

Can some be resolved by doing something simple - like employing the use of a slow cooker (my personal favorite cooking item) so that both kids and you have a decent meal and still only a single meal cooked - and you don't need to do anything more than throw a few things in a pot and turn it on?

Is there any way to restructure your work time? How much time do you get to spend with your wife and kids?

Do you praise her or show appreciation when she does put in an effort to cook? You do get more when you use honey rather than vinegar.

Best wishes.

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FirstYearDown

I was raised the old fashioned way, so I HAD to know how to cook to catch a husband.

Now I am glad I was taught, even though the method was horribly sexist.

My husband gained weight after I moved in, from all the good food.

Now I am an even better cook because I look at new recipes and culinary magazines.

There is a saying that anyone who can read can cook; if your wife can follow written instructions she can become better in the kitchen.

I love cooking for my hubby because it is one way I look after him.

mikeydread1982

Wow, I remember growing up, you eat what is prepared. None of this multiple pots foolishness. If you don't eat what mom makes, then make your own or go to bed. Kids have it so good these days.

sinnister

Tell her how much you miss your mothers cooking.

Worked for me.....

Hoggie

Thanks guys for all the feed back which has been really helpful....

I think you have all echoed my sentiments and therefore you can see how frustrating it is find a solution.

Things I have taken from the feedback:

1. SHE DOESN'T LIKE TO COOK - just as much as I hate to do the DIY. But then I get a professional DIY in to do what I can't do. I would be more than happy to pay for a professional cook to come in daily but I know my wife would find that an insult!

2. I did talk to her about it and she can't believe how important food is to me. She say 'Are you sure that's all thats the matter' insinuating I'm having an affair. When I say... yes thats it she struggles to believe me! and FYI, i'm not having an affair other than eating alone at restaurants some evenings just to get some nice dinner!

3. I have now started to cook a bit more and am enjoying my food again. I must admit I resent having to do this as I feel she should be doing that for me. I do believe that one can always learn new skills and don't understand why she won't LEARN how to cook! I did ask her this and she thinks she can cook!

4.I have let it go for the moment because there was no point in pursuing this one.

Appreciate everyones feedback, once again.