My wife is acting crazy...please help?
My wife of 11 years is going thru a phase I guess you would call it and I don't understand or know how to handle it. I know shes not on drugs but she is acting off the wall. We have/had a great marriage, no figts, no arguements no nothing. We loved to spend time together and were best friends. Great sex life and best Christmas ever. BUT...two weeks after Christmas she tells me she doesn't love me anymore...out of the blue. I can't believe it and ask why and she tells me "you call the kids dogs names" and the kids don't want you here. She asks me to leave. I end up staying with a friend to try to figure this out. She changes the locks next day and in a week a guy she works with is living in my house and she is telling everone he is her new love and her life is great! I ask her how life can be great with no job and no money and she say we're just fine! I found out from her work they have only nurtured the relationship for the month of December so it is fairly sudden and new. On top of this, they both got fired by their employer for the affair. She made 50K and the dude make 15k. they both got denied unemployment and have no money and havent paid any bills in a month including mortgage. He is married and left wife and she says he hasn't made truck payment for two months and no child support to his ex wife. They were seen dumping my change jug thru the machone at the grocery store that gives you money for change. I tried to talk to the kids about this (14 and 18) and get them to see things are NOT ok, but they are her kids not mine and they say "we just want our mom to be happy" and I tell them she was with me, but it gets nowhere.
We had a good life and bills all were current and both made money and no money issues. All her friends have disowned her because of this and she says "screw them all I don't care what anyone thinks" and is just in total denial. She has not told her brothers, sisters or parents anything of the whole deal. I have tried to reason with here and get her to see the road she is headed down, but she is in lust or something and can't be reasoned with. She will only talk via text msg and that is only when she feels like it. I have told her I love her and wannt her back and will help her to straighten all this out but she doesn't want to hear it. A therapist says hang in and give it time for her to hit rock bottom and she will realize her mistake and want to work things out. She is very stubborn and I don't know if that will do the trick or not. She is an intelligent woman (usually) and just seems blind to the whole situation. I send her an I love you, miss you and want to work things out text every day. She sends back there is no us and nothing to work out. Any ideas on what is going thru her mind here ladies (or men) and would I be better off quitting texting her and ignoring her. I have heard both sides of this, that if I quit texting she will think she has lost her connection to me and it may help win her back, but on the other side I have been told it could be pushing her away. I am at wits end cause I love this woman and I just don't understand it. The guy is NOT good looking and is not in goood physical shape, is now unemployed and according to his wife is lousy in the bedroom and has erectile problems. This will not sit well with my wife because sex is a big part of her life. Nothing makes sense. Help? Advice? Anynbody?
Last edited by Gator; 02-19-2012 at 10:51 AM.