Wife Called Me A Coward..

Bobby5000 · 03-16-2012, 10:30 PM

I know first-hand about a similar situation. A guy and his son went to a concert. The son was drunk, said something to a group of guys, got in an argument and the father came out to help. BOOM, a guy hits him with a bat and knocks him unconscious, the other keep hitting him, and the mother ran out, crying for them to stop before they kill him.

He suffered multiple facial fractures and has pain while eating and doing other things.

This is what your lovely wife wanted for you. To preserve her self-esteem, having you beaten up by three guys was a small price to pay. Assuming the police came, you might have a criminal record for assault, which could cause you to lose your job or be ineligible for positions in certain industries.

She is one screwed up, insecure, nasty, self-centered broad.
Apologize to her? I'd think twice about having children with someone who was that mean and self-centered.

Bobby5000 · 03-16-2012, 10:33 PM

Let me modify this. If he hit his wife in an argument, then we have two dysfunctional people. If her point is that you're tough enough to hit her, but scared of someone your own size, that's a fair point.

desert-rose · 03-16-2012, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Bobby5000

Let me modify this. If he hit his wife in an argument, then we have two dysfunctional people. If her point is that you're tough enough to hit her, but scared of someone your own size, that's a fair point.

If she's feeling like you're shoving her around, this might indeed be her line of thought. If you're doing so, you've got an anger problem and she's got a drama problem; yes, that's some big dysfunction and you guys should not ignore it, but address it. You're not alone; this isn't uncommon; and, if you both want things to get better, then work together at the problem, and they will get better.

Dar-li · 03-17-2012, 04:35 AM

in defence of your "cherry lady", you must avoid the 'ghetto' areas

LadyFrogFlyAway · 03-17-2012, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by bogey

because I supposedly didnt 'defend her honor'.

while walking out of a movie theater to my car these three guys made some comments about her, basically hooting and hollering saying she was hot and had a nice ass or whatever. We just ignored them and went on our way. She says one of them was cat-calling but I don't remember hearing it. When driving home she asked me why I didn't say anything to 'defend her honor'. I guess she expected me to fight these three guys to prove I cared for her or something. I tried to explain to her that this is real life and three-on-one is almost a guaranteed trip to the hospital but she's still a little pissed at me for not doing anything. honestly, what did she want me to do? take them all on at once? I told her maybe if she dressed more appropriately men would have more respect for her. It's not my fault she dresses like a **** sometimes..

to the ladies of this board: how would you want your man to react in this situation?

to the men: how would you react to this situation?

Calling you a coward was mean and rude and uncalled for.

Several years ago dh and I stopped in at a bar for snacks and a drink with another couple we are friends with. We walked past two guys leaning up against the bar and one of them made a blatantly sexual comment to me. I heard and ignored. Dh heard also. In two seconds the fight was on. It didn't last as the bouncers were on them immediately. They got kicked out but I've never forgotten it as it reminds me how quickly fights can start and spiral out of control.

Over something like what you described, you made the right call. Three against one is not a fair fight and these days in a situation like that everyone is going to jail. NOT worth it.

She should just take it as a compliment and leave it alone.

Dar-li · 03-18-2012, 03:40 AM

you talk as if the fight is the only manner in that area....
and if not so, try to be nice with people to 'offer' your sex and try to 'tame' them....

desert-rose · 03-18-2012, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Dar-li

you talk as if the fight is the only manner in that area....
and if not so, try to be nice with people to 'offer' your sex and try to 'tame' them....

I'm sorry, but your comment doesn't make sense....To whom should the OP be offering sex? Who is it that you think the OP should be taming? In what ways would diversionary sex or domination be useful in building a healthier balance of power based on mutual respect between the OP and his wife?