Originally Posted by Therealbrighteyes View Post
With the exception of Jamison, everybody here missed what this was really about. It wasn't about a guy unwilling to get his ass kicked by 3 dudes, it was about a woman who has not been defended in the past, either physically or verbally. It also wasn't about honor, it's about a woman feeling comfortable and secure knowing that her husband will stand up for her. Had that happened in the past, her reaction would have been of laughter and shrugging it off. It wasn't.
With respect, I think the situation is more complex than this. Most married men don't stay silent because we are more worried about ourself. We often still take upon ourself the fear for the safety of our wife, just as she fears for ours, but there is also a desire to do the right thing for her protection. She shouldn't dismiss this so casually.
My wife trusts me to protect her when we are in the city. Its an extreme situation, but even though she followed my lead and tried to ignore a couple of guys in a national park, I still had to defend us when they pulled out their knives and ordered her to go into the woods. I put one of them in the hospital with my favorite walking stick, and scared the other one away because he thought I had gone postal. I grew up in a bad place, and could tell that these guys were bad business. She trusts me to make the right call when situations arise. But what is important to me is that such tests as this would be beneath her, out of respect for me.
The OP wasn't just fearful for himself. He feared for the safety of his wife. At the end of the day, many of us can deal with the lumps that come along if the situation turns bad for us, but putting our wife in danger is not something we want to use as a relationship test.