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There are ways to stand up for someone, without coming to blows. In this case.....walk away, I get that. All I am saying is his wife's response sounds like a woman who is used to standing up for herself. That is all.
Isn't that natural for us guys? We only care what they're wearing, right? I was wondering if she was confident enough to pull off a fuschia skirt in the winter? Or maybe open toes? I do pastels on Thursdays, but its because we do Miami Thursday in my work group....
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No, he did not (at least based on the current state of the posts). He said the following:
defended her how? fought for her? if that's what you're asking then no i haven't..
but she has always been independent of mind, and doesn't need me to stick up for her most times. but this time was different, like she flipped the switch on me and now she's all pissed off
I don't read that to me that he has not ever stood up for her. I only read it to be that he has not physically fought for her.
Reading comprehension, it does exist. TAM wouldn't be as much fun if used too often though. The OP messed up by being drawn down to his wife's level. Posted via Mobile Device
Reading comprehension, it does exist. TAM wouldn't be as much fun if used too often though. The OP messed up by being drawn down to his wife's level. Posted via Mobile Device
I completely agree with this. No matter how tactfully put, blaming his wife and her clothing for the cat calls was dumb. That will get him no where fast.
My wife said that my sense of humor is just subtle, and its not like it isn't funny... Still, when TRBE said that we men only care about what women wear, I couldn't resist. Honest, when we study the finely shaped woman as she passes, we're not checking out her caboose, we're only stunned that she hasn't gotten the message that pleated skirts are so yesterday!!!
Does anybody here REALLY think this was about 3 guys who heckled her or can you see the larger picture and her extreme reaction? Wow.
Like I said, catalyst event. That event likely created a waterfall effect for ANY other circumstance in their history where she felt unsafe, unimportant or ignored.
Doesnt mean that it is either correct or valid, but she felt strongly about it to the point of lashing out at him. So ... Valid or not, there is a bigger issue than the event itself.
The next time your wife fails to stick up for you in a social setting or when one of her girlfriends makes an offhand remark about you and she just sits there or laughs it off... go ahead and call her a coward. See how she likes it.
I was in a situation like that years ago as a teen. Some drunk guy with his buddies at a concert were purposely rubbing up on my then GF. The drunk guy had an empty beer bottle in his hand waiting for me to make a move. A was measuring up to punch him when i noticed his three other drunk buddies. Im not superman folks. I promptly grabbed her and they started following and taunting. I headed to the the nearest policeman and told him what was going on and they arrested the ahole after they found a knife on one and a gun. Yes, a freaking gun.
Folks we live in dangerous times. I would defend my family to the death but will avoid conflict whenever possible. Posted via Mobile Device
My wife said that my sense of humor is just subtle, and its not like it isn't funny... Still, when TRBE said that we men only care about what women wear, I couldn't resist. Honest, when we study the finely shaped woman as she passes, we're not checking out her caboose, we're only stunned that she hasn't gotten the message that pleated skirts are so yesterday!!!
Whoa. I never said men only care about what women wear. In fact, I believe men don't care what women wear at all.
In the OP's case however, clearly this was a sneak attack. He didn't have a clue what was adorning her body and only after her being heckled, did he notice.
Like I said, catalyst event. That event likely created a waterfall effect for ANY other circumstance in their history where she felt unsafe, unimportant or ignored.
Doesnt mean that it is either correct or valid, but she felt strongly about it to the point of lashing out at him. So ... Valid or not, there is a bigger issue than the event itself.
Whoa. I never said men only care about what women wear. In fact, I believe men don't care what women wear at all.
In the OP's case however, clearly this was a sneak attack. He didn't have a clue what was adorning her body and only after her being heckled, did he notice.
Sorry to derail the thread, but I had made a stupid joke on a previous page, deliberately misinterpreting your response. You were scolding Entropy for only caring about the way the wife was dressed, and not her calling him a coward. Sorry, I'll refrain from stupid jokes in the future - that one came from an old Steve Martin appearance on SNL.
The next time your wife fails to stick up for you in a social setting or when one of her girlfriends makes an offhand remark about you and she just sits there or laughs it off... go ahead and call her a coward. See how she likes it.
I agree with this. I do. My husband and I don't exactly have a great marriage but I'll be damned if somebody says anything about him. Not a chance in hell. He's my husband and despite it all, I love him. No way would I sit by and let a bunch of people (especially friends) mock him. They sure wouldn't be my friends for long. They'd also leave with clumps of hair missing, but I'm scrappy like that. Okay, not really but if somebody pissed me off enough......
I agree with this. I do. My husband and I don't exactly have a great marriage but I'll be damned if somebody says anything about him. Not a chance in hell. He's my husband and despite it all, I love him. No way would I sit by and let a bunch of people (especially friends) mock him. They sure wouldn't be my friends for long. They'd also leave with clumps of hair missing, but I'm scrappy like that. Okay, not really but if somebody pissed me off enough......
Agreed. It would have never come to Pidge calling me a coward in a situation like that. She would have said something to the guys herself. In fact I would most likely have to get in between her and them. She's feisty.
Agreed. It would have never come to Pidge calling me a coward in a situation like that. She would have said something to the guys herself. In fact I would most likely have to get in between her and them. She's feisty.
Yeah, me too but that's neither here nor there. Fact is, OP's wife felt he didn't defend her and no, now wasn't the time but there is little doubt in my mind that this was as Deejo said, a long series of events that lead up to this.
Women want to KNOW that their man will protect them and that is shown on a daily basis. It isn't coming to fistcuffs, it is a small and simple showing that he can and will protect you. Sure, us strong women can handle our own but it is nice to know somebody has your back, just as we have yours.
So your suggestion is to "Act like a man" and take a beating in an effort to sue the movie theater? Oh. My. God. You know what women hate MORE than cowards........grifters. Wow.
you must have only read the first part of my post.....but thats typical of you!
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