Re: Wife Called Me A Coward..
Here's the thing the woman needs to understand.
SHE was in the position of power, as to subtle things she could have done to show the guys what was what, like putting a hand on your ass while walking away. Instead she chose to feel attacked and to need someone else do something about it (take the risks) on the spur of the moment (take the risks without thinking). See, for me, real power might be, being with a guy who wants to cause trouble for having his turf verbally invaded, and being able to ask that this not happen. The issue here is why a human being would (1) want to have a physical fight start when it can be avoided (2) think that they are worth someone else possibly going to jail for or at least going to court for or if not that the police station. Or after just not being in the mood for loving. (After he gets the cr*p beat out of him, kissing her will be the last thing on his mind...) I just don't get that kind of thinking. Will it prevent future attacks, is it going to change her feelings or help her if she's alone and these same three guys say the same things to her? I'm not naive, when I was young I lived in San Antonio, Phoenix and DC. I think I have a feel for what warrants a fight (being able to win is always a consideration...knowing whether someone is armed is another...) If a woman wants to go out dressed provocatively, I think she needs to learn how to handle herself. You wouldn't drive a race car at 120 miles an hour without training, if you want to be showing some skin, expect comments and learn how to handle them. It's wrong to use someone as protection or to do the stuff you should learn to do for yourself. If she doesn't like those kind of comments, have her look around and pay attention to all the ones who don't holler, the pervs, the security cameras with pervs or bored guys watching late at night (unsupervised), the old men who just want something to look at and dream about...the kids who wish she was their mom... My guess is she has to do some growing up about clothes and the person who wears them. First be a confident person who can take care of themselves socially, then wear the clothes that fit that confidence. If she thinks she is going to get power by looking good, she's mistaken. That's not sold in catalogs.
By the way, I have rescued a guy named Eric in a bar...we were part of a French conversational group, he went to the bar to get himself a beer and this guy starts bullying him, working him up into a provocation so he could start a fight. Eric had no clue how to save himself, so I went to order myself something, bought this other guy a drink, chummed up to him a bit and then put my hand on Eric's shoulder and said, thanks for the conversation, I need my friend back, talk to you later, okay? Of course, I never did! What, the guy's gonna deck me for being with someone? I'm a tiny woman. But I don't need brawn to be in control, and I don't need borrowed brawn either.