I am an great observer of people, LOVE it....what they enjoy, what repulses, what excites, what bores them......the differences fasinate me.
2 days ago....I watched the interaction of my 14 yr old at a buddy's house (his Mom my friend)...they are the same age, he says he can't wait to go see "THE VOW
" with his GF tomorrow... his buddy says "what's that?"... I couldn't resist & jump in & say...."A sappy muuushhhyyyy Romance".... His buddy looks at him and goes ''ewwww, what would you want to watch that for?!"
, then goes on to say , "give me a Ninja movie, war, bombs" (something to that effect)..... I point to his buddy & say ..."see now he is the typical young male"... (not making fun of my son in any way , I love the way he is - he is just like his dad!)....but do I think this is the norm....probably not.
Then his buddy starts poking fun & says ...."He is a lover, not a fighter", I busted up
at that - because my husband uses that line on me all the time when I start a little conflict with him. My son just says ...."I don't care what all of you think". He wasn't upset, he is who he is and he likes who he is.
The boy is almost 15, he is writing love letters, shared his Love poem to his GF for Valentines to me, he is so proud of it too, he wants to celebrate everything, they have already discussed their Love Languages ....both are Time / Touch / Words of Affirmation at the top. I am convinced these make up the "Hopeless Romantics" of our world. The GF is just like him ....writing these drippy sappy long love letters, he let me read his front & back Christmas letter...... I was standing there...eyes getting wider as I read ....saying ...."oh my ...oh my...oh my oh my" ...the mush is so thick you could cut it with a knife, the girl has it bad, she signs every letter the future Mrs ____, lists why she loves him. Lord, I might have to watch these 2!
My son is a through & through "Hopeless Romantic"... he's got every sign under the sun. (Poor thing he has a double dose from me & his dad!).....His dad never did the poetry thing, not much into writing, but he has always lived for the moments we share together, always sentimental , loves those chick flicks with me too -and no, he is not faking it.
I know this is yet another sign of the Beta male !! Urban Dictionary: hopeless romantic 5 Sure Signs You you are the Hopeless Romantic type Hopeless Romantic Test
We took this test... I am an 87 & my husband was an 80 (scale 1-100)... Neither of us do poems or gifts or we'd probably have scored higher even... but the expression, the togetherness... terribly US. I am not a dreamer though, I do keep my feet on the ground.
How many Hopeless Romantics out there - I assume many more women over men.......most of us are hooked on Romance after all, or is that changing in society also? ......
I also feel if you are one at heart & are not married to one, it causes you great pain. I know I would feel that way.
So here I am asking, curious how much of a disease this is ! ??