Re: Stay-at-Home Wives: What do you do all day? (What should they do?)
I am a full-time working mother. I have been my whole adult life. I was married before and my husband made good money, but he didn't want me staying home. Then, I was single for 10 years, and I had to work. Now, I'm married again, and I earn 2/3 of our income. My husband and I each work about 40-45 hours week, about 55 hours each with commutes, but he just doesn't bring in as much as me. My son is grown and has moved out, but I have a teenage step-son at home.
For me, it's all about doing household chores in the few minutes between getting home from work and going out to play tennis in the evenings. I keep a very clean home. I can mop, put dishes in the dishwasher, throw clothes in the washer and dryer, etc in 15 minutes or so. I cannot stand a dirty house. My husband usually does not help out with household chores inside the house, but he does the outside chores, like mowing, edging, etc. I do some outside work, too. My stepson also mows the yard. My husband and I both take care of the pets.
I don't cook much. Really, I have always hated cooking and cannot ever seem to find enough time to get to the grocery store regularly(especially when it's so crowded on the weekends). Plus, I have about an hour to clean my home, get changed and dressed and drive to play tennis several evenings a week. I love playing, though, and with my stressful job, I need some stress relief. It's a great hobby for me. I should cook more, but I just run out of time to do it all. I rely on sandwiches, frozen dinners and take-off often. I know it's not as healthy, but one can only do so much and stay sane.
Through tennis, I know a lot of SAHMs. I understand that taking care of young kids is a lot of work. But the ones I know have grown children and spend a lot of time shopping, going to lunch, playing tennis, etc. Some of them tell me how they are soo busy and how it's so hard to be a SAHM. They assume I have a housekeeper, etc because I work. Sometimes, it frustrates me because I would like them to have to work all day and still keep their homes clean and do all the chores. Then, tell me about being busy.
Like I said, taking care of small children is lots of work and I'm sure it's very tiring. And I know some SAHMs that do a lot around their homes and make their husbands as comfortable as possible. I also know some who do little of anything. I think, sometimes, before complaining about how busy they are, some SAHMs need to think of working mothers who have to work all day, often at stressful jobs, and then, do everything around the house.