02-27-2012, 08:32 AM
Join Date: Jul 2011
| | Re: Stay-at-Home Wives: What do you do all day? (What should they do?)
Originally Posted by SomeLady
I agree there are some SAHM who do very little at all. But, do you think it's lazy because, after the wife doing all the house cleaning during the day and preparing the meals and cleaning up after, the husband is expected to do a couple of things with the children's evening and morning routines?
I think that's absurd. I also think that daily mundane parenting things like bedtime is "quality time." My husband told me that he only sees the kids for a few hours a day. He'd feel like a jerk if he sat and watched TV while I put them to bed. Not because it would be unfair to ME, but because it would be unfair to the kids. He likes to be the one to read them their bedtime stories.
I think that is reasonable, but perhaps it is because that is what my wife and I do. The kids (we have three) don't stop making messes just becuase I come home from work or am home over the weekends. My wife still does more of the house work (laundry, cleaning, etc.) during those times, but I chip in as needed. I also take on the more physical tasks (fixing the door or moving stuff) as well as outside work.
Neither of us like the housework, but it has to be done. we both look at it as something we do so that we can get time together. That means that on some evenings, she has it all under control before I walk in the door (actually most of the time), but on other evenings, I have to do more for us to get that time.
As I think about it, my perception is that my wife works hard at her job. Maybe she could do more, or be more efficient, but I really have not thought about it. But because I feel she is working hard to keep up her end, I am happy with what we accomplish together.