General Relationship DiscussionAlthough anyone can post anywhere on Talk About Marriage, this section is for people interested in general relationship and marriage advice.
CandieGirl,
Yep, and I remember how disgusted, grossed out and pathetic I thought the "older" guys, married men and unhappy husbands who eyed me or hit on me were when I was the 25 year old hottie...
I consider myself lucky not to know who 'Danica Patrick' (or any other Maxim / Playboy model (or whatever) is ... makes life a hell of a lot easier to NOT be constantly comparing myself to the 25 year old 'hotties'.
Guess what? I had my turn at being a 25 year old hottie I, too, aged. And I'm good with that.
Danica Patrick is a race car driver from Indycar that's now racing in NASCAR, and she's picked up some sponsorship from Go Daddy who has used her in some comercials. She's been sexualized a bit, but IMO if you just went by looks, I don't think she'd be poster material. She became marketable because she is in a male dominated sport and has some looks.
It doesn't matter who any of these bits of fluff are, Fiery. Men above a certain age who obsess over these women are ridiculous in my eyes (posters, calendars, websites, etc.). It's very juvenile behaviour; as I think I stated when I first posted in this thread back in Feb.
Danica Patrick is a race car driver from Indycar that's now racing in NASCAR, and she's picked up some sponsorship from Go Daddy who has used her in some comercials. She's been sexualized a bit, but IMO if you just went by looks, I don't think she'd be poster material. She became marketable because she is in a male dominated sport and has some looks.
Okay. True, it isn't that relevant. Why are we talking about her? Seriously. My dad is still married to my mom. Growing up he had a poster of Farrah Faucet in the garage. A poster isn't something to jump to conclusions about. Does the poster have stains on it or have you caught him alone with the poster and a jar of vaseline if you know what I mean? Or is there otherwise any real reason to feel threatened?
See... I don't have any posters up, but I'm a nice guy and I wouldn't do that because I wouldn't want to have my wife feel threatened that way. I had posters before I got married, but it's not like I thought I was going to pursue Cindy Crawford or Claudia Schiffer (posters I had in high school). I do attribute one of those posters to why I find my wife so hot in jeans with no top tho.
WillK and CandieGirl,
You are making me giggle on this Danica Patrick thing...honestly, my husband doesn't have any posters, calendars, magazines, that I know of, although he did use my computer to search for Danica Patrick images...so I am not going to worry about it at this point.
In his case, I think it is a symptom of something deeper, namely wanting TO BE and TO BE WITH a young, hardbody and struggling to deal with being middle-aged and married to a woman who is middle-aged.
And that whole mindset is juvenile, as CandieGirl pointed out in Feb.
Thanks to you both for the continued focus. I really appreciate it.
Well... okay, so is he or is he not into automobile racing? I mean... it's a competitive sport, and seriously I dunno - he sounds like that could be something with the potential to do together and be kind of competitive and maybe bond or whatever.
I know maybe this might take some elaboration, and maybe I'm wasting my time elaborating if cars do nothing whatsoever for you, but SCCA Solo II is an amatuer automotive racing competition that's run all over the country. You bring your car, you run a single timed lap on a course set up in a parking lot using cones.
Thanks WillK,
I will mention the SCCA solo II to my husband, although I am pretty sure he won't be interested, since, other than Danica Patrick, I've never seen any interest in racing. :-)
Seems as good an excuse as any to extend my Ferrari comment... As someone into cars, I'm also aware that supercars tend to be hi-maintenance, but nobody thinks about that. I mean, the idea is it's worth it.. Perhaps a side note, but in my situation the problem was I was doing better as my Ferrari's mechanic than as her driver. Sounds like once he took ownership of you, he just parked you in the garage
Reminds me of my Grandfathers marriage advice. He was a mechanic and owned a gas station.
He said "Son, if you buy a Porsche everyone will want to take a ride, but if you buy a Chevy you'll get there all the same and you'll have her all to yourself"
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Re: My husband doesn't think I'm sexy anymore 
I, too, aged. And I'm good with that.
cute.
