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Old 02-25-2012, 10:42 AM   #16 (permalink)
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It's funny how people want someone that seems taken (ie: wearing a ring). I guess if s/he is good enough to be married, s/he MUST be worth something!


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It's true though, there are a lot of women who not only don't care if your taken but the fact that you're married seems a motivator for them.
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My husband and I have been married for 20 yrs. We both have wedding rings and I wear mine all the time. He does not wear his at all anymore and has not for over 10 yrs. When I asked him why he said it is bent and feels uncomfortable to wear. I told him to get it fixed. He is too lazy to take it in himself. He told me to take it ina nd get it fixed for him. I said well since you aren't wearing your rings I can take mine off too. He said no your rings are fine. You can wear yours. I don't understand his reasoning. He doesn't have to wear his wedding rin but he gets mad if I take mine off.
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In our case, it is reversed. My wife hasn't been able to wear her wedding ring since she was pregnant the first time, and she hasn't gotten it fixed so she can. However; in our case, wedding rings are not a part of the culture my wife came from. They are a part of the culture I came from.

Mine is worn to the point of being distorted, and the design on the surface is not really distinguishable anymore. I'm honestly not sure I can take it off anymore (I used to have to take it off for when when I worked with explosives).

It's not an issue with us, but I'll admit that part of the reason it's not an issue is that I know it's not part of the culture my wife came from, so she doesn't see it with the same importance that someone from my culture sees it with. She shows with her conversation and her manners that she is married and proud of it. I've just never seen it as important enough to make an issue of it ... but this is cultural in our house.
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Old 02-25-2012, 10:45 AM   #18 (permalink)
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I remember the seinfield show where george started to wear one to attract the ladies and found it to be somewhat true.

aint it funny that humor always has a bit of truth to it. thats what make its funny.
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Old 02-25-2012, 12:32 PM   #19 (permalink)
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i never wear mine,as the job i have is too easy to lose a finger. thiis one guy comes into work everyday, takes his ring off, kisses the ring and puts it in his wallet, now there's a man who seriously loves his wife
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Old 02-25-2012, 01:24 PM   #20 (permalink)
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I chose ours to withstand a lot of pressure and every day wear and tear. We have tungsten carbide\titanium rings. When husband lost his ring while doing a recovery (car turned over at a boat launch near town, he was towing at the time) I simply replaced it with the same ring from the same company.

Incredibly cheap price with an incredibly priceless meaning. I feel naked without mine now that I've been wearing them for so long (engagement and wedding band) he says the same thing, he doesn't like the naked feeling of not wearing his.

We're looking to replace them when our marriage is a little more healthier than it is now. Again, will not be spending a lot of money on ours the second go around either (his was 57 dollars USD, mine was 54 USD - Coi Jewelry).

I understand the feelings behind the wedding band for some (I feel the same) as a symbol of their marriage and commitment. What I don't understand is spending 1000s of dollars on them.
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Old 02-25-2012, 03:36 PM   #21 (permalink)
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Originally I didn't wear mine for many of the reasons given. It felt uncomfortable. I would got it caught on things and lost it several times. I don't wear any jewelery, not even a watch.

She has mentioned it a few times, but now I just add it to the list of unaddressed issues in our relationship.
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Old 02-25-2012, 03:48 PM   #22 (permalink)
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For those who do not wear their wedding bands/rings for work, sports, hobby safety reasons... take a look at this site.


Safe Wedding Bands and Rings - Non Conductive, Flexible, and Heat Resistant - SafeRingz.com

There are ceramic wedding bands... not the type of cermics dishes are made of.. they type they use on the shuttle.

Amazon.com: ceramic wedding band: Jewelry

If you do a google search for non-conductive and flexible wedding bands .. there are a lot of alternatives. Some of them are beautiful.
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Old 02-25-2012, 03:53 PM   #23 (permalink)
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Nice!

My BIL got an irish knot tattooed on his finger like a ring. He hates jewelry so that was a good compromise for them.
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Old 02-25-2012, 06:53 PM   #24 (permalink)
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I was talking to a girl once who was 14 and I told her that due to medical reasons I cannot wear my wedding ring. She suggested that I get a tattoo of a wedding ring on my finger. I had to get my wedding ring cut off in a jewellery store once as it was really digging into my finger. Now there is not even a mark of where the ring was. I can't even wear a watch on that wrist either.

In relation to wearing my ring I always felt it had to be treated with a certain amount of respect because our rings were blessed at the wedding ceremony and therefore were a powerful symbol of the sacred bond of love.

I don't think anyone should be forced to wear a wedding band especially if it is damaged and they are doing work that could cause the ring to become a danger to them. The OP should enquire what caused the ring to be damaged in the first place.
I am of the opinion that if someone is used to seeing a woman wearing a ring and the ring is then removed that predators move in very quickly. Due to the manual tasks and roughness of many male jobs (some which I may add are only allowed to be undertaken by men - for instance using certain chemicals - the mind boggles at this as it is as if men don't matter, sure let them do the dangerous stuff!!) it is more common here in Ireland to see married men without rings.
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I am of the opinion that if someone is used to seeing a woman wearing a ring and the ring is then removed that predators move in very quickly. Due to the manual tasks and roughness of many male jobs (some which I may add are only allowed to be undertaken by men - for instance using certain chemicals - the mind boggles at this as it is as if men don't matter, sure let them do the dangerous stuff!!) it is more common here in Ireland to see married men without rings.
I actually don't notice whether or not other people wear rings but maybe I'd be more conscious of them if I wore mine.
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Old 02-25-2012, 07:26 PM   #26 (permalink)
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Since its an expectation of my husband that i wear my ring then I hold that same expectation for him.

I once left my ring in some cleaner and went out without it. He noticed and even though he didn't same much past where is your ring I could tell he was upset. He places a lot of value in me wearing my ring, so to me he needs to wear his too.

If he didn't seem to care or get his panties in a bunch when i didnt wear mine then I probably wouldn't pay any attention to whether or not he was wearing is.

As for getting a ring tattoo, a friend suggested that once. I kinda laughed. I love my husband a lot and we have been together forever but nothing in life is guaranteed (I have no plans for a divorce but most people don't see it coming until you got the paperwork in your face)
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Old 02-25-2012, 08:07 PM   #27 (permalink)
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I don't wear my ring because I lost a lot of weight and the ring was too big for me. Eventually, it fell off my finger and got lost. I have a cheap replacement ring but it is not the same. Most people know that I am married. The walls in my office are plastered with pictures of my wife and daughter alon with my daughters artwork. My wife doesn't wear her ring either. she doesn'yt wear any rings as far as that goes. Rings to me doesn't make or break a marriage.
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Old 02-25-2012, 10:06 PM   #28 (permalink)
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You are right in that the rings are only a symbol and your love for each other is much more important.
I just do not understand why he thinks I need to wear one when he does not.
Obviously for me we have other issues that make our marriage difficult. This is just another issue that we can add to the list.
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I was talking to a girl once who was 14 and I told her that due to medical reasons I cannot wear my wedding ring. She suggested that I get a tattoo of a wedding ring on my finger. I had to get my wedding ring cut off in a jewellery store once as it was really digging into my finger. Now there is not even a mark of where the ring was. I can't even wear a watch on that wrist either.

In relation to wearing my ring I always felt it had to be treated with a certain amount of respect because our rings were blessed at the wedding ceremony and therefore were a powerful symbol of the sacred bond of love.

I don't think anyone should be forced to wear a wedding band especially if it is damaged and they are doing work that could cause the ring to become a danger to them. The OP should enquire what caused the ring to be damaged in the first place.
I am of the opinion that if someone is used to seeing a woman wearing a ring and the ring is then removed that predators move in very quickly. Due to the manual tasks and roughness of many male jobs (some which I may add are only allowed to be undertaken by men - for instance using certain chemicals - the mind boggles at this as it is as if men don't matter, sure let them do the dangerous stuff!!) it is more common here in Ireland to see married men without rings.

What jobs are only men allowed to do?

The only issue that I can think when it comes to chemicals is that chemicals are more likely to damage a woman's eggs thus causing birth defects. Perhaps it has nothing to do with who is worth more but with protecting potential children?
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Old 02-26-2012, 12:01 PM   #30 (permalink)
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I lost my wedding band during a training exercise about twelve years ago. It hasn't been replaced and I haven't been wearing any ring ever since. My wife's wedding band no longer fits her and she hasn't worn it herself for a few years. My wife doesn't think it's worth the money to get both of us replacements.
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