Re: Happy you reconcilied? Not? Or not sure?
The last thing I want is to let my wife think I am happy we R'd (I am).
I reserve the right to change my mind at any time and can ask her to leave.
Don't get me wrong we are doing great, but I think after what we both went through for the past 20 years, I think we are both on gaurd with what the other is capable of doing, so there is a sence of work that still needs to be done or should I say things are different and as spouses we are more aware of what each other needs and how to meet those needs.
Its wierd, we have more of a faith that me and her will do the right thing for the marriage and that makes us happy, but what we did to each other in the past is still painfull.
So we are happy we R'd but are cautious.