never posted on a site like this before so I will jump right in to it.
Info: Married for almost 16 years in may. We have 4 kids. Both just graduated college and are starting work in the same place soon.
We recently were "friended" on facebook by an old boyfriend of my wifes from high school. He sent me a friend request first and I accepted, but it didnt feel right. He then sent her a request. She also didnt feel right about it at the time, so she left it up to me. I accepted it for her. He is currently going through a seperation from his wife. He's a truck driver, hard career to make a marriage work, I've seen it a few times.
I assume it's a brief sense of nastalgia (spell) and he will float away shortly. I am just worried that I may have opened pandoras box. I dont feel I can delete him yet because that will send a message to my wife that I dont trust her. On the other hand, I do not want them becoming too friendly....which has not happened so far.
I'm frustrated with myself for allowing it to bother me, however it is and I must deal with it. I think the main uneasyness is from the fact that this is the only other guy she had been intimate with.
I try to keep in mind that she did choose to leave him for me back then. I'm sure that our current financial state and transitioning from college to work and being in limbo with that is adding to my uncertainty...
looking for opinions on if I made a mistake by letting him catch up with old friends while he is going through a divorce. It seemed like the mature thing to do but I feel uneasy about it.