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post #1 of 2 (permalink) Old 02-27-2012, 12:03 PM Thread Starter
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what to do?

I am having the hardest time with my husband. He works very hard at a restaurant, grueling work I know, but when we are home he does nothing to help me out around the house. I work too, am learning graphic design, getting my ESL teaching certificate online, and taking care of a 2 year old all while balancing the housework. I don't mind the business but I always told him that if I work outside the home, or cover his shifts (we work together) then I should expect him to help around the house. Instead I have to do everything, laundry, dishes, pay our bills, I do everything! He does take care of our son, but not very well. He sits around and watches tv, forgets to change his diaper, feeds him on the floor rather than the table, and never gives him a bath or cleans up after him. I feel like I am going crazy, I am so angry. We also have no common interests. I try so hard to bond on things, like yoga for instance. Instead he is distracted during the video or complains and makes up excuses. All of our plans I make. I feel like he makes no effort in our relationship. I planned my own birthday, even made my own dinner reservation. He didn't even get me a valentine's day card. our relationship is suffering and he isn't even bothered. I don't know what to do...I love him, he is very sweet and handsome and makes me laugh. He is a loving person, very sweet with my son. I just can't tolerate his laziness anymore. What to do.

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post #2 of 2 (permalink) Old 02-27-2012, 12:10 PM
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Re: what to do?

How many hours a week would you say your husband works? How about you? Which one of you is home more?

Most important questions.... how long have you lived together? How were chores split before the baby?
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