angry upset,trying to be positive

where do you start · 02-12-2009, 10:04 AM

I,m just going to make this quick and simple,i havnt even registered all my details as ive just found this site.Two days out of a 6year relationship,my partner gone but more importantly my 3 kids under 3 gone with their crazy mother. left to cope with 15ks worth of debt,lost everything,forget the money im talking about my kids,soon to lose the house.funny isnt it when i met my partner,she was all washed up living in a bedsit,unfortunately for me she lived near the uni had enrolled at,she had changed her name and said she wanted to forget her past,hadnt spoke to her family for 10 years.crikey im pissed off,now she swans off with my kids leaving me to sort out this pile of ****.Think i better leave it herei could go on all day lol.IT WOULD BE NICE TO HERE SOME SOLID ADVICE COS I DONT KNOW WHERE TO START,MAYBE THAT REFLECTS IN MY PUNCTUATION LOL.the part that really makes me laugh is the fact that she even took my email so i have to use hers on this bloody computer.

justean · 02-12-2009, 11:42 AM

when the **** hit my fan, i learnt from my first major cyclone, once you have learnt to live and like yourself, from that point and when you do like yourself, you can move on and rebuild.
at the moment, you have some low esteem, anger and all the negatives on your shoulders.
once you start to get to the point of seeing the positives and this comes from re-socialising and when the dust settles, regaining balance with your children, because they are obviously your world.
put your focus of the bad into the good when your with your children.
dont lower yourself to your ex. because she isnt worth it.
trust me the reverse psychology , you being extra nice and staying calm wil in itself be its own game.
and you move on and enjoy your children to the best possible advantage.

where do you start · 02-13-2009, 03:44 AM

Thank you for your lovely reply,which not only showed empathy,but such care too,maybe thats where i went wrong lol,thank you again and take care

justean · 02-13-2009, 06:25 AM

your welcome to my honesty. as for you thinking thats maybe where u went wrong - then thats your next step. to fix the wrong and take it from there.