Onedayatatime

Hi im new to this but i dont know where else to go. I have been engaged for just over a year and i'm suppose to be getting married at the end of the year. When we got engaged everything was wonderful but soon after the problems started. We moved in together right after and he started making me feel like i was his mother and he expected me to do everything for him and work full time which i have been trying to deal with and make things more 50/50 in regards to housework. About 4 months ago, I found out that he was inviting some other women over to our house for sex. He claims she never came over and nothing ever happened. I have this horrible feeling that he's lieing to me. (when we first started dating he did the same thing and when i found out he put a stop to it and i forgave him and learned to trust him again). Now that it happened again im having a really hard time trying to figure out what to do. I know that i dont trust him and i find my self looking at his cell phone when hes asleep to see who he is talking to. Every night we get into a huge fight about it and he tells me that i need to get over it and trust him because we are suppose to be getting married. When im with him lately i am so unhappy. My heart is telling me that i need to leave him and find someone that will be honest with me, trustworth, and make me happy. I keep telling myself that tonight is the night to tell him its over but then i see him and he tells me how much he loves me and how he wants to spend his life with me and i feel horribly guilty and cant bring myself to end it. I'm scared that im not going to be able to tell him that i cant be with him and end up getting married and living the rest of my life unhappy.

Amplexor

At a minimum break off the engagement for now and separate. There are way too many red flags here. He has broken your trust repeatedly which shows a very dangerous pattern. I agree with you, you don’t want to live your life like this. Not trusting him nor getting the kind of support and help you desire in the relationship. Move on and find someone who treats you the way you desire.

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swedish

I would listen to what your inner-voice is saying. Starting a marriage with someone you do not trust will likely bring you pain, especially with his 'get over it' attitude.